By: Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
(2nd of 7 posts on child sexual abuse prevention)
The Stewards of Children training offers SO much important information.
About the MOST important thing you will learn in this training is about situations where children would potentially be exposed to One on One Situations.
· A One on One situation is any situation where your child would be alone with an adult, older child, bigger child, or child that your child might perceive as more dominant, even if that child is younger or smaller.
· Potential One on One situations might be as follows:
o Your child has to use the bathroom and his whole class is on the playground;
o Your child skins their knee and is taken for a bandaid;
o Your child is acting out and needs to be removed from the group;
o All of the other children have been picked up and your child is the last one, waiting with the last teacher;
o Your child is taken out of the classroom for special help or a music lesson;
These are just some examples. Challenge yourself to think of others.
· What should you do about One on One situations?
1. First, you should attend the next Stewards of Training Workshop (see below); three of your valuable hours spent learning to protect your dear child.
2. You should ask anyone who provides care to your child, “What is the policy about ‘one on one situations’ in your program (school, music studio, recreation department…).
§ IF they respond right away with an explanation, you know you are on the right track. If they tilt their head,
squint their eyes, ask what you mean, etc. EITHER THEY HAVEN’T BEEN TRAINED AND/OR THEY DON’T HAVE A POLICY.
§ At minimum, you are looking for knowledge in their response and you are looking for buzz words, about any one on one situation being “observable” and “interruptible.”
§ In these days, with all of the headlines, programs should be able to field questions like this without a pause.
There are definite next steps to take in either scenario, but too lengthy for this blog post. I urge you to take the training or contact me for more information.
This is an empowerment program, not a paranoia or scare based program. Even given the numbers of 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys being sexually abused before their 18th birthday, it is important to keep a sense of perspective. While we have to keep in mind that there are offenders in the local community, the vast majority of people do not sexually abuse children. Our #1 defense and method to keep children safe in our community is to begin to talk about CSA and educate ourselves about CSA.
I double and triple urge every parent to take this training or call me directly for assistance. Between my
services, other qualified professionals, Children’s Cove, Independence House, and others, every adult; parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle….should be trained, along with EVERY person providing any level of care to a minor.
It is an adult responsibility to protect children from sexual abuse!
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