by Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
My house sparkles!
My family eats “clean!”
I nursed all of my babies until they were one year old!
I work 25 hours a week in a well paid job where everyone values me!
Some people call me a “soccer mom!” I never miss a game and do more than my share of the car pools.
We attend the Sunday service and I teach Sunday School!
My husband is always satisfied with our level of intimacy!
Oh, sorry…I was daydreaming.
The reality is, I have to schedule time to go to the bathroom and some days I’m lucky if I can get a hot dog on the table.
Moms…Just how exactly are we to fit it all in???
Over the summer, I became aware that I had so much on my card that my health had deteriorated to the point that I felt like I couldn’t even stand for a period of time and on one occasion, my daughter tried to tell me something and I yelled at her, “Stop talking to me! I’m breathing right now!!” Not a proud “Mom moment.” I felt like I couldn’t multitask (one of my strong points) at all, even to the point of breathing at the same time as listening to my daughter. (One of the issues was low iron.)
So I began a program, in part that involved assessing my responsibilities, priorities and time. When I tried to plug everything into the charts I became boldly aware that it just didn’t compute. It wasn’t possible.
As 2014 begins, I encourage you great moms to look at your responsibilities, goals, needs and time and see to it that you aren’t just living each day to get it over with and onto the next, but that you are really living and getting what you want.
I hope you find these two tools useful! You might want to share them with your husband as well, if he is prone to not having a clue what you do all day.
This chart is for you to put all of your responsibilities IN A DAY; the things you must do, really should do and wish you could do.
Now friends, here is a place to plug in the things from the first chart. See if you can do it. I could NOT do it even when I extended the times from 6 am to midnight. No wonder I was completely depleted!
Tomorrow, or when my virus infected computer comes back to life, I will post “Super Mom II” where there will be some great info on goal setting the “SMART” way.
As always, I can be reached at www.tracylamperti.com or 774-722-5919.
If you would like more information or a consultation, please go to www.tracylamperti.com. If you have any concerns that your child or a child you know may be being sexually abused, please consult with myself or another professional trained in this area right away. Sexual abuse has lasting and devastating effects on an individual and our community. You can help protect your own or another child.
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