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10 Ways Parents Can Make a Huge Difference to their Child on Valentine’s Day!
By Tracy Lamperti,
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
Roses, boxes of chocolates, love notes, kisses, romance and blushing…sound wonderful? Not to everyone. In fact, for teenagers, Valentine’s Day can be one of the most stressful days of the year. They often experience worry, disappointment and even depression on this “special day.”
How Parents Can Save the Day
I am posting this purposely a little more than two weeks before the big day so you have time to think about how you are going to show your son or daughter that you love them more than anyone on this special day!
…because, when our children know and feel that they are loved deeply at home, they can go to school with confidence, even if their inbox isn’t full, and their locker hasn’t been smacked with red lips when no one was looking, and they don’t have a boy(girl)friend to strut down the halls with, and they didn’t get as many valentines as their friend.
Pinterest…Just type in “Valentine’s Day Ideas.” Have fun with it! http://www.mommybydaycrafterbynight.com/2012/01/14-days-of-valentines-free-printables.html Ok. Some of my “fb friends” will remember I did this last year. It took a lot of planning. It was well worth it, but the truth is, I wouldn’t have it in me to do it again. Looking at it will give ideas. Maybe you will just do ONE of the 14 idea days.
Drive your child to school on the big day. Leave early and stop for a hot chocolate or whatever their pleasure is. Leave early enough to take your time and enjoy a little sit down with your child while they enjoy their Danish, or whatever.
Pick your child up from school. Take them out for a jumbo chocolate chip cookie or something else enjoyable. Leave them a card or a coupon in the morning, so that they can think about it at school instead of wondering if they are really important to anyone or not.
Rig up their door. When they exit their bedroom, a dozen balloons fall on their head. You get the idea. Use your imagination.
Leave a trail of notes. At their toothbrush, on the fridge door, etc. in every spot they will visit before leaving for school, each one acknowledging something awesome you notice about them.
Buy them a gift. This one is not on the top of the list, so if you are going to go with it, don’t go top dollar, but something meaningful that sends the best message of love to your child. Believe it or not, an inexpensive pair of heart socks will mean a great deal to a child who can lift up their pant leg at school and say, “Do you like the socks my dad gave me this morning."
Hug. Without fail, and without regard to your child’s age, give them a hug before they depart for the day. If hugging your teenage son or daughter is not typical, lay it right on the table, “Son…I don’t tell you I love you nearly enough. You’re not getting out the door until I give you a hug.”
Enlist the love and support of family and friends. If your daughter, or son, has a father (or mother) that lives out of the home and they have not already acknowledged Valentine’s Day, find an aunt or an uncle, or maybe a friend or other close person. Enlist their support. Ask them if they would kindly help you show love to your child by doing one of the above.
Offer your love and support to the child of a friend. If you have a niece or nephew or child of a friend who has an absent or uninvolved parent, offer your love and support. Ask if you could pick them up from school and take them out to the Hot Chocolate Sparrow.
Really get into it! Decorate your house, wear the socks, give your spouse flowers, balloons or chocolate, and make a special dinner and/or dessert.
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2 of 4 – Removing Barriers to Open Ourselves to Love
4 of 4 – Couples Love
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