By: Gary M. DellaPosta, CPA
If you, your spouse or dependents had significant medical or dental costs in 2012, you may be able to deduct those expenses when you file your tax return. Here are eight things you should know about medical and dental expenses and other benefits.
1. You must itemize. You deduct qualifying medical and dental expenses if you itemize on Schedule A on Form 1040.
2. Deduction is limited. You can deduct total medical care expenses that exceed 7.5 percent of your adjusted gross income for the year.
3. Expenses must have been paid in 2012. You can include medical and dental expenses you paid during the year, regardless of when the services were provided. Be sure to save your receipts and keep good records to substantiate your expenses.
4. You can't deduct reimbursed expenses. Your total medical expenses for the year must be reduced by any reimbursement. Normally, it makes no difference if you receive the reimbursement or if it is paid directly to the doctor or hospital.
5. Whose expenses qualify. You may include qualified medical expenses you pay for yourself, your spouse and your dependents. Some exceptions and special rules apply to divorced or separated parents, taxpayers with a multiple support agreement, or those with a qualifying relative who is not your child.
6. Types of expenses that qualify. You can deduct expenses primarily paid for the diagnosis, cure, mitigation, treatment or prevention of disease, or treatment affecting any structure or function of the body. For drugs, you can only deduct prescription medication and insulin. You can also include premiums for medical, dental and some long-term care insurance in your expenses. Starting in 2011, you can also include lactation supplies.
7. Transportation costs may qualify. You may deduct transportation costs primarily for and essential to medical care that qualifies as a medical expense, including fares for a taxi, bus, train, plane or ambulance as well as tolls and parking fees. If you use your car for medical transportation, you can deduct actual out-of-pocket expenses such as gas and oil, or you can deduct the standard mileage rate for medical expenses, which is 23 cents per mile for 2012.(This rate increases to 24 cents in 2013.)
8. Tax-favored saving for medical expenses. Distributions from Health Savings Accounts and withdrawals from Flexible Spending Arrangements may be tax free if used to pay qualified medical expenses including prescription medication and insulin.
By: Michelle Donaghy, Pediatric Sleep Consultant – Certified Gentle Sleep Coach
Myth #6 - every time my baby wakes overnight, s/he must be hungry. FALSE! Babies during the first 2 months are more likely waking from hunger, but older babies who wake frequently (every 1-2 hours), may not be waking from hunger. Ask yourself whether your baby can be soothed in other ways first. Also, ask yourself whether your baby is going to sleep from an awake state at bedtime (without being nursed or rocked).
Sleep myth #7 - If your child wakes before 6:00 am, put him/her to bed later. FALSE! Often, putting your child to bed later makes them rise earlier.
SLEEP MYTH #8: If you keep your child up all day, they will sleep better at night - FALSE!! As Dr. Marc Weissbluth explains in his book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, sleep breeds sleep. Children who nap well during the day at the right times actually fall asleep more easily and sleep better at night. Children who
are over-tired are more likely to have difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep at night. So, if your child is having difficulties at bedtime, consider whether s/he needs MORE sleep during the day!
SLEEP MYTH #9: TV before bed helps calm them down/get them sleepy. FALSE. According to the National Sleep Foundation, researchers caution that use of electronic devices within one hour of bedtime are harmful to the sleep-onset process because the artificial light can suppress our body’s natural release of melatonin, the hormone that helps signal our body to fall asleep.
Sleep myth #10: My toddler won’t nap – s/he just doesn’t need it! - False! Many toddlers go through phases when they resist napping, or skip naps some days of the week. Most toddlers need a nap until they are at least 3 ½ years old. Consistency in enforcing nap time, ensuring that your toddler knows how to put
himself/herself to sleep, and making sure you are putting your toddler down for his/her nap at the RIGHT time can help ensure successful nap practices.
Sleep myth #11: Gifted children don’t need as much sleep as other children. FALSE! It is true that many gifted children have difficulty shutting down and getting enough sleep, but the studies actually show that children who get more sleep during their toddler years (and beyond) do better in school – they have higher
grades and better math and language skills.
Sleep myth #12: My toddler doesn’t seem sleepy or tired, so s/he must be well-rested. FACT: Children are different from adults, and may even seem energetic or hyper when they are over-tired. Many children who are over-tired exhibit attention and behavior problems, or may simply be difficult or cranky in the
Look for my next blog post where we will talk more about Healthy Sleep Habits for your Children and I will answer more of your questions. If you have a question you would like me to answer please email me at email@example.com
By: Maurene Merritt, RN
Time and again, I witness women's strength, and effort so fierce to give birth. I think, "If only I could help them bottle it and drink a fresh cup a day like it was their morning coffee, they'd feel so energized (without the crash when the caffeine is gone), full of themselves and deeply satisfied!" That's how it feels, when we push hard and strong in a direction that makes room for greater forces to move through us. Do you remember?
I've taken it on, the work of giving birth over and over again, to sit and wait for those moments of movement that our beyond my will. I push and I push and I push to feel like I did before I lost how brave and bold I was when I believed. When I'm really fortunate, and feeling so safe that a pin drop could cloak me again and take me out of myself, it happens. The tears flow and I allow myself to feel, trusting the release and the resulting waterfall of energy that moves me. It's then that my pen just seems to ride the paper, like a surfer on a wave enjoying her afternoon stroll.
Please join me. It's not as hard as it seems, and just like when you have birth, you will not be alone, you'll have me!
*reprinted with full permission from http://www.birthblessingsyoga.blogspot.com/
By Brittany E
This tasty recipe was sent to us from a fellow friend, fan and mom: Brittany! She has been making a real conscious effort in her home to prepare healthy food choices for her family. She sent me this amazing recipe and pictures yesterday. The whole family loved it. Let us know what you think!
Chicken Tenderloins: sauté them in almond oil and coconut oil
with jumbo garlic slices, fresh basil leaves and ground black pepper.
Once the chicken has browned: add 1-2 ounces of fresh homemade garlic dressing.
The owner's of Embargo in Hyannis have decided that instead of holding a birthday party for their son Aston this year, that instead they will hold a Fundraiser to raise money for Cape Cod Child Development and
more specifically Early Intervention as they were a blessing to their family.
About 1 in 88 children has been identified with an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) according to estimates from CDC's Autism and Developmental Disabilities Monitoring (ADDM) Network. It occurs across all races, demographics, and occurs 5 times more frequently in boys then girls.
No one knows for sure the true causes of autism and research is still being done; however early intervention is key to laying a successful foundation for these children. The family wishes to give back to Cape Cod Child Development as they were instrumental in their lives.
By: Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
(2nd of 7 posts on child sexual abuse prevention)
The Stewards of Children training offers SO much important information.
About the MOST important thing you will learn in this training is about situations where children would potentially be exposed to One on One Situations.
· A One on One situation is any situation where your child would be alone with an adult, older child, bigger child, or child that your child might perceive as more dominant, even if that child is younger or smaller.
· Potential One on One situations might be as follows:
o Your child has to use the bathroom and his whole class is on the playground;
o Your child skins their knee and is taken for a bandaid;
o Your child is acting out and needs to be removed from the group;
o All of the other children have been picked up and your child is the last one, waiting with the last teacher;
o Your child is taken out of the classroom for special help or a music lesson;
These are just some examples. Challenge yourself to think of others.
· What should you do about One on One situations?
1. First, you should attend the next Stewards of Training Workshop (see below); three of your valuable hours spent learning to protect your dear child.
2. You should ask anyone who provides care to your child, “What is the policy about ‘one on one situations’ in your program (school, music studio, recreation department…).
§ IF they respond right away with an explanation, you know you are on the right track. If they tilt their head,
squint their eyes, ask what you mean, etc. EITHER THEY HAVEN’T BEEN TRAINED AND/OR THEY DON’T HAVE A POLICY.
§ At minimum, you are looking for knowledge in their response and you are looking for buzz words, about any one on one situation being “observable” and “interruptible.”
§ In these days, with all of the headlines, programs should be able to field questions like this without a pause.
There are definite next steps to take in either scenario, but too lengthy for this blog post. I urge you to take the training or contact me for more information.
This is an empowerment program, not a paranoia or scare based program. Even given the numbers of 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys being sexually abused before their 18th birthday, it is important to keep a sense of perspective. While we have to keep in mind that there are offenders in the local community, the vast majority of people do not sexually abuse children. Our #1 defense and method to keep children safe in our community is to begin to talk about CSA and educate ourselves about CSA.
I double and triple urge every parent to take this training or call me directly for assistance. Between my
services, other qualified professionals, Children’s Cove, Independence House, and others, every adult; parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle….should be trained, along with EVERY person providing any level of care to a minor.
It is an adult responsibility to protect children from sexual abuse!
Click here for testimonials from Cape Cod parents and professionals
who took this training with Tracy Lamperti.
By Tracy Lamperti,
So….St. Patrick’s Day…how’d that go for you? Did you wear green? Did you drink Guiness? Did your kids get a visit from “Leppy the Leprechaun” ? Who, you may ask, is Leppy the Leprechaun? Well, I learned about good ol’ Leppy a few days before St. Patrick’s Day. Thank God, because if I’d learned about him after St. Patrick’s Day, I can imagine that there would have been two disappointed wee girls at my house on St. Patrick’s Day morn. Luckily, a week earlier the girls came home from school full of tales of leprechauns and how, surely, Leppy would visit them during the night and leave them gifts. GIFTS?! ?! Yes, mom, duh! Um, gifts on St. Patrick’s Day? Is this something you mamas knew about? Because it was news to me!
Now I am a full on lover of holidays. I do it up, because it gives me joy to have magic in my house and I
try to bring it in whenever I can. But this is something I do because it’s fun for me. In the end I am pleasing myself by doing my holiday celebration craziness and hoping that it also ends up bringing some joy to my little ones as well. But, even I, a holiday lover and proud member of the Irish Maguire clan, has never received gifts from a leprechaun on St. Patrick’s Day, nor have my children.
But, here’s the thing, my kids go to school now. In school they talk to other kids (I know, so weird) and they get IDEAS. They are learning how other families celebrate holidays and when something sounds awesome to them, they decide it must be a part of our holiday too. Sure, sure I throw out the old “every family is different, and celebrates holidays in their own way” line, but sometimes I end up folding. Which is how a
certain creepy elf ended up living at our house during the holiday season. It’s also why I put together these adorable little “gifts” from Leppy for my kids.
This project was small and manageable and brought some cheer to go along with our green pancakes and green milk. And to use up the sugar, we took a nice long St. Patrick’s Day bike and hike which really was the highlight of the day for all of us.
The rainbow treat was fun and I imagine there will be similar gifts from Leppy in the years to come. However, I worry about holidays. And my worry is this, now that Pinterest has been introduced to our lives, there is an endless supply of ideas to do more, bigger, better. And some of these mamas are doing ALL of the ideas, and they are killing it, just hitting it out of the ball park. Which is awesome for them and their families, but guess how I feel when I look at those pictures on Pinterest and Facebook? I kind of feel like leprechaun poop. I worry that as my kids get bigger, they are going to expect more, bigger, better. I know it’s my job to
teach them gratitude and avoid entitlement, but I don’t want them to ever feel like they aren’t getting the same things because they are less deserving. Does that make sense?
For example, with the creepy elf, my eldest was worried that she was on the naughty list because so many others in her class had an elf come stay with them and she didn’t. Did Santa not like her? I was all “Oh no, Santa KNOWS you’re so good you don’t need monitoring” HAHAHAHA! But when those elves went on clearance after Christmas that year, I surely snapped one up. And there he was right after Thanksgiving the next year, and she was SO happy. I think it wasn’t just that it was a piece of Christmas magic, but it was also something that she could talk about with her friends at school, it gave her a commonality that wasn’t there the year before. And now we have Leppy, which as it turns out wasn’t a class-wide phenomenon but something my girls came up with on their own. Which, honestly, makes me like him better.
So I guess what I’m exploring in this post is how do we all balance holidays and magic with entitlement and the craziness that comes with the Pinterest-ization of these special days? Do you feel influenced by the way your kids’ peers celebrate? Do you feel pressure to live up to the Pinterest ideal? Or are you zen in the face of Facebook? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Which, let’s face it, is one of my specialties. Until next time, I wish you many magical days with your family!
By: Amy E
Here is a fun activity to do with kids to spice up their water and add a little fruit to their day!
You need ice trays, water and assorted diced up fruit (any kind, include lots of colors!) We used kiwi, blueberries, strawberries and mango.
First have the kids wash up their hands and get them nice & clean since they are going to have their hands on the fruit
Give your child an empty ice tray. Have them pick from the diced up fruit and fill the trays up with their favorites. When they are all done, top the trays off with water and freeze them. Later you can add fruit ice cubes to their water to jazz it up. As the ice melts, the kids will get their fruit surprise! The kids will love being part of the activity and the result! Enjoy!
By: Coach Pam Wills
Are you feeling a little too comfortable lately? Like you never want to leave your boring old, painful old, draining old comfort zone?
Well, that is all well and good if you are all set with your job. Your
relationship. Your home. Your education. You KNOW what I’m talking about.
However, if you are thinking about using your creative juice, making plans, setting goals and otherwise getting out there and on the move, you know that comfort equals death. As in comfortably numb (thank you, Pink Floyd…). If this sounds like you, then it is time to get up off of that overstuffed sofa and out onto the open road. Get ready peeps, we are leaving the comfort zone now…
#1 – Decide
No worries, this first step may still be completed from the comfort of your sofa. Just don’t take all year already! Give yourself a deadline to consider your options. What happens if your plan works? What happens if it doesn’t work? Is this the right step, in the right direction? Decide.
#2 – Get tougher
Trust me, what makes you tougher won’t kill you. (Um, if you choose to leave the C-zone for something that could actually kill you, well, that’s another area altogether, one that I am not trained to help with. We are NOT talking about dangerous, life-threatening actions here!) Really — doing something different or differently will not end the world. Just enjoy the ride.
#3 – Dig deep
What will you miss out on or give up if you continue to just sit there on your comfy sofa for all eternity?? Might you bore yourself to tears? Miss out on a chance to take the spotlight? Never experience love again? Think about it. Is remaining in the C-zone really all that great in comparison?
#4 – Put your Self first
As women, we hear this all the time. We know it makes sense. But do we really take this advice to heart? It is
NOT selfish to take care of your Self, get enough rest, exercise and good nutrition. It does NOT make you a Bad Mommy if you go out with the girls one night a month, or have a date with your partner once a week. It does NOT make you a bad person if you say no to the fifth or sixth or seventeenth person requesting your precious volunteer time. There is only so much of you to go around! When you put your Self first, you start to hear your own voice. Not your mother’s voice. Not your partner’s voice. Just yours. What are you saying? What do you REALLY want??
#5 – Take baby steps
No need to take extra giant leaps here, not if you are out of practice and not if you are looking to make small changes. Decide on tiny increments and make your road a gentle path rather than
a speeding rollercoaster. It’s okay. We can’t all be Lady Gaga.
#6 – No excuses
You heard me.
#7 – Do something
Anything! Anything related to whatever it is you are shaking up. Want to go back to school to be a nurse? Contact some local schools and request info packets. Want to renovate your bathroom? Get thee to the hardware store and pick up some paint samples! Want to change your career, or maybe the world? Get online and start digging for possibilities. See what happens!
Ready to get up off that comfy sofa now? Give me a call, I can help you get
You Will Need:
2 slices of bread (I used whole grain)
3 tblsp olive oil
1 tsp ground cumin
½ tsp salt
½ cayenne pepper
2 cans (15 oz) black beans drained and rinsed
1 red bell pepper chopped fine
¼ c fresh cilantro minced
Gorgonzola or Blue Cheese
Toast or bake the bread until golden brown and dry & create bread crumbs. 10-12 mins. Set aside to cool to room temp
Whisk eggs, tblsp oil, cumin, salt & cayenne together in a small bowl.
Place 2 ½ cups of beans in a large bowl and mash them like potatoes until mostly smooth. Avoid over mixing the bean mixture or the texture of the burgers will be mealy.
Stir in the bread crumbs, egg mixture, ½ cup beans, bell pepper, cilantro, and shallot until combined. Divide the bean mixture into 6 equal
portions (about ½ cup each) and lightly pack into 1 inch patties.
Heat remaining olive oil in a skillet over med heat until simmering. Carefully lay the patties on the skillet & cook until well browned on both side 8-10 mins flipping them over. They are hard to flip so go easy.
Transfer burgers to a plate and cover with foil while you cook the remaining patties.
I was more than surprised at how good they came out. They were spicy but really good especially with the gorgonzola (personally I'll probably use a little more next time on my own patty because I enjoy the kick). An added bonus was that the Tiny One also enjoyed it as well (though it took some serious prompting and me singing that silly song: "you got to try new food because it might taste goo oood.")
Spring Family Fun Night
on Wednesday March 20, 2013!!!
trusting their instincts and what to do if they feel uncomfortable.
BUT, it is NOT your child's responsibility to protect themselves from
being sexually misused by someone.
It is an adult responsibility!
Equip yourself with the knowledge to address this difficult topic with
confidence. Sign up for the next Stewards of Children training:
Click here for testimonials from Cape Cod parents and
professionals who took this training withTracy Lamperti.
Ø Is your child 3 years old and entering preschool?
Ø How about a 5 year old entering grade school? Or an 8 year old starting piano lessons?
Ø Maybe a 12 year old going to summer camp?
Ø Or a 15 year old going away for the weekend with a church youth group?
Ø Are you a caretaker of OTHER people’s children who hasn’t taken an evidence-based training? Don’t let any more time go by. You WILL encounter this topic at some point. Why not equip yourself NOW!
Stay Tuned for my next 7 weeks of blog posts. They will all cover one aspect of child sexual abuse.
By Tracy Lamperti, Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
If you would like 1:1 assistance, please contact Tracy Lamperti for a consultation.
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
I never ever thought I would be as excited as I am right now about someone else using the bathroom. But I am and I want to share why. Recently the Tiny One has been delving into the world of potty training. He has been very successful at it so far and is quickly getting the hang of the process. But it has been the past two nights that have been some of the highlights of my short parenting career.
For the past few nights, the Tiny One has successfully pooped on the potty, flushed it on his own, waved goodbye and then washed his hands. Seeing this skill click for my toddler was such an amazing moment for me. The pure JOY and PRIDE on his face said it all as he exclaimed: "Look Mama, A BIG ONE!!!!" As I studied his enlightened face, my heart exploded into a million pieces as I shared his accomplishment and also realized simultaneously that he was quickly growing up and this was another giant leap forward in his road to independence. It seems like every single day he astonishes me with something new from putting on his own pajamas or clothes to helping me take out the trash. Each day passes by so quickly and sprinkled within it are these little moments that make all the work we do worthwhile. For now, I take the time to enjoy the moment and then lock it away in my heart. My life has changed so much and now I live for the moments like these-the feeling is unbeatable!
What kinds of little moments with your kids have impacted you? A goal scored in a soccer game, the first time they sleep all night long, the moment they got their license?
If you received income during 2012, you may need to file a tax return in 2013. The amount of your income, your filing status, your age and the type of income you received will determine whether you're required to file. Even if you are not required to file a tax return, you may still want to file. You may get a refund if you've had too much federal income tax withheld from your pay or qualify for certain tax credits.
Even if you've determined that you don't need to file a tax return this year, you may still want to file. Here are five reasons why:
1. Federal Income Tax Withheld. If your employer withheld federal income tax from your pay, if you made estimated tax payments, or if you had a prior year overpayment applied to this year's tax, you could be due a refund. File a return to claim any excess tax you paid during the year.
2. Earned Income Tax Credit. If you worked but earned less than $50,270 last year, you may qualify for EITC. EITC is a refundable tax credit; which means if you qualify you could receive EITC as a tax refund. Families with qualifying children may qualify to get up to $5,891. You can't get the credit unless you file a return and claim it. Give us a call if you're not sure you qualify for the EITC.
3. Additional Child Tax Credit. If you have at least one qualifying child and you don't get the full amount of the Child Tax Credit, you may qualify for this additional refundable credit. You must file and use new Schedule 8812, Child Tax Credit, to claim the credit. If you need help filling out this form, please give us a call.
4. American Opportunity Credit. If you or someone you support is a student, you might be eligible for this credit. Students in their first four years of postsecondary education may qualify for as much as $2,500 through this partially refundable credit. Even those who owe no tax can get up to $1,000 of the credit as cash back for each eligible student. You must file Form 8863, Education Credits, and submit it with your tax return to claim the credit. Don't hesitate to give us a call if you need help with this form.
5. Health Coverage Tax Credit. If you're receiving Trade Adjustment Assistance, Reemployment Trade Adjustment Assistance, Alternative Trade Adjustment Assistance or pension benefit payments from the Pension Benefit Guaranty Corporation, you may be eligible for a 2012 Health Coverage Tax Credit. Spouses and dependents may also be eligible. Email or call us today to see whether you're eligible for a 72.5 percent tax credit on payments you made for qualified health insurance premiums.
Want more information about filing requirements and tax credits? Give us a call. We're here to help.
Listening to women so soon after they give birth, it sounds like their story has a life of its own, moving through their bodies like a runaway train with seemingly nowhere to go. However, if we listen well, it can direct us to places inside that require more of our attention. They're the places that we continue to return to over and over again, the knots that need to be untied so that we can integrate our experience and have it be inside us more like a well tuned conductor, guiding our direction to the magical tune within us that helps us to find just the right balance of the two wings of yoga, surrender and effort.
when she first arrived at the hospital, very tired from putting everything she
had into laboring for hours at home, she lost it, allowing herself the sobs and cries that reflected how she felt. It was the surrender wing, the letting go, the giving ourselves over to our innocence; the unedited, strong, fighting youthful spirit that is willing to do and be anything. It's the place where for me personally, now, I try so hard to go, over and over again, like a laboring woman, I sit, I breathe, and I wait for the opening.
that she would have been forewarned of such drastic,sharp unexpected movement, a concern hardly heard of in labor, and one that will serve her well, especially if she is willing to continue to explore, reflect, and articulate. Her baby's sharp, drastic movement downward followed by birth - the release, it's the culminating moment of transformation, grounded down deeply by a force beyond our will, only to be lifted higher upward for lighter, more joyful
*reprinted with full permission from http://www.birthblessingsyoga.blogspot.com/
We’ve had more than our share of time indoors last month so I thought I would sweeten the deal by listening to a lot of music at home. I purchased a vintage fisher price record player from eBay for my little one and I to enjoy music together and really for me to get nostalgic listening to old vinyls. It’s been amazing sharing music with her and she really loves it. She still likes familiar tunes but once in a while I will jazz it up with some of my favorite indie bands. Plus, that record player sure can take a beating even if a 3 year old likes to put the record on. They don’t make them like they used to. We’ll bang around on her assorted instruments but there’s a real mutual appreciation for live music. We love going to the music and movement playgroup at the Falmouth Library that the Coalition for Children provides but we’re still hankering for some more hands on music activities during the week. Now that the weather is nicer I thought we would take our musical adventures out of the house so I researched some musical options we could explore on the Cape. There is a sing-a-long drop in at the Cape Cod Children’s Museum on Tuesdays. For St. Patty’s Day week, our preschool is having Aoife Clancy come in to play some Irish music and later this month on Friday, March 29, 2013 she is playing at Mashpee Library for the public for free. I’m looking forward to finding other free music activities and events. One day my toddler might even want to actually play that guitar that she currently loves to use as a coat rack.
Sleep Myth #1: Give your baby formula - s/he will sleep better - FALSE!! While formula does take longer to digest than breast milk, they have the same calories per ounce. When we feed our babies bybottle, there is a greater risk of over feeding as well, and sometimes that can make sleep worse for a baby accustomed to breastfeeding. Babies can sleep equally well on both breast milk and formula. Breastfeeding moms are more likely to fall into some habits that encourage more frequent wakings because it is such an easy way to soothe babies to sleep, while bottle feeding parents are often forced to look for a variety of techniques and teach babies to self-soothe younger.
Sleep Myth #2: If your child is having difficulty going to sleep, keep them awake later - FALSE! Children who have difficulty falling asleep often need to go to bed EARLIER. It seems counter-intuitive...but when a child is over-tired, they catch a 'second wind' - and that burst of energy often makes them seem NOT tired or makes them unable to lay still and fall asleep. Instead, try to get your child to bed earlier - before that 'second wind' takes over.
Sleep Myth #3: Don't worry if your child doesn't sleep through the night, they'll eventually outgrow it - FALSE! Studies actually show that children who never learn to sleep independently turn into adults who don't sleep well. Children do not sleep independently for many reasons - habit, medical reasons scheduling... finding out why your child doesn't sleep and address it.
Sleep Myth #4 - children will scream when you teach them to sleep so you should delay until they are 6-12 months old- FALSE! Children are ready to sleep for longer stretches much younger than you might think. From birth, we can slowly teach our children skills that will help them seamlessly develop good sleep habits,
without needing to scream hysterically. Even parents who cosleep and breastfeed can work on these life skills. Simple things like developing multiple ways (other than breastfeeding or a pacifier) to soothe your baby, developing a calming bedtime routine around 6-8 weeks, starting a nap routine (not schedule) around 1 month, and introducing a lovey by 4-6 months (even just during feedings and in a swing) all help. You can gradually teach your child to go to sleep at bedtime from an awake state and during night wakings/feedings,
Sleep Myth #5 - My toddler doesn’t fall asleep until 10 pm, and s/he wakes up every morning at 5:30 am…s/he clearly isn’t tired, and just doesn’t need a lot of sleep - FALSE! Many children who go to sleep late at night and do not nap during the day actually rise too early in the morning, NOT because they have gotten
sufficient sleep, but because it is a symptom of sleep deprivation. Children are different from adults, and may even seem energetic or hyper when they are over-tired. Many children who are over-tired exhibit attention and behavior problems, or may simply be difficult or cranky in the afternoons. Some over-tired children will also fall asleep every time they get in the car, or crash much earlier than their bedtime some nights.
Look for my next blog post where we will talk more about Healthy Sleep Habits for your Children and I will answer more of your questions. If you have a question you would like me to answer please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll include it in a future blog.
Michelle is a Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Certified Gentle Sleep Coach who offers parents a gentle and loving approach to their sleep problems. Through her years as a therapist, a mother and a sleep coach, Michelle’s approach offers tired parents an alternative to the cry it out method. Her proven solutions are medically and developmentally appropriate and look at all aspects of your child to gently get them the sleep that is so important to the entire family.
Michelle Donaghy, Pediatric Sleep Consultant – Certified Gentle Sleep Coach
Cell: 714 651 5116 ~ Fax: 267-382-2070
Making Sweet Dreams ~ Sleep Coaching for Children
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