When I was pregnant with Hudson, I felt like I had a vague idea as to what to expect postpartum, or really just a lot of preconceived notions about what "postpartum life" would be like.
I had some sort of idea about how my life was going to change, but I was very intentional about making sure the baby fit into our life, and not the other way around.
I knew I would be tired, pretty busy, but there was no way I could of ever prepared myself for exactly what life was going to be like. I knew my body was going to be a little different than it was before pregnancy. I knew that postpartum depression was a possibility and I knew breastfeeding was hard for some.
Reflecting back now as we are quickly approaching Hudsons first birthday (I can't believe it) I realize how clueless I really was going into the whole parenting thing. The truth is: having a baby is really one of the most incredible blessings that life has to offer, it's fun, exciting, beautiful and truly has provided me with the most happiness in the world. I feel blessed to have Hudson in our life, to have had the opportunity to birth him and to have the privilege to raise him.
Here is another truth: having a baby changes everything.
In amazing, blessed, difficult and challenging ways.
Anything that you assume about parenthood before having a child will be flipped around and turned upside down. What you thought your baby will like, will in reality be the opposite. I am certain that you will reflect back on what you thought postpartum life would be life and just laugh, like I do. The reality is, how could we have known right? We only set the best of intentions.
Hudson is a miraculous little boy. He is a wonderful sleeper and has been since day one. But the truth is even with a baby who is a wonderful sleeper, those first six-eight weeks they need to either wake or be woken up to eat. So you are still not getting anymore than 3 hours of sleep at most, at a time. And when Hudson got the okay from the pediatrician to let him sleep longer, Mama still needed to wake up every three hours and pump so my breasts didn't get engorged.
You will experience a level of exhaustion that you did not know was possible.
He was very easy to nurse, but he wanted to nurse 24/7. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY can prepare you for what life is like when nursing your little babe. Despite how time consuming and challenging it can be at times, I would never have changed my decision to nurse Hudson and I still intend to nurse our next baby. That being said, cluster feeding is no joke. I can remember days on end, nights on end even weeks on end where 4 o'clock would come around and it was time for Hudson to eat and he would stay on my breasts for nearly 8 to even 10 hours. I didn't see the dinner table most nights during that time because I was on the couch nursing him.
Your body will change, and it will in more ways than one. But that is OK. You may have stretch marks, and you will have some loose skin for a little while. You may decide that those tiny itty bitty bikinis that you once rocked no longer make you feel comfortable. Again, that is OK. You will still look six months pregnant for a few days (or weeks) after you have your baby because your uterus takes time to return to its normal size, but things will go back to the way they were. Every woman's body is so unique and so different, with this incredible capability to grow another human being inside. To create this beautiful life inside our bodies... Really think about that... it is SUCH a gift. Dealing with a little extra skin, or a stretch mark here or there is such a small sacrifice for the beautiful beings we bring into this world.
Your emotions will be all over the place and I am not saying that you will have postpartum depression, but you will feel overwhelming feelings of happiness, sadness, isolation, being overwhelmed and everything in between. It's ok to not feel ok. But if you do sense that you have some postpartum depression, that is OKtoo, and it is so important that you talk to someone about it and get some help. It's ok to need help.
You are about to experience a love that you have never imagined before. You will be absolutely consumed by and in love with your baby. Your life will change to accommodate that child. And yes, you’ll find ways to fit the baby into your word, but more likely you’ll find yourself navigating this strange new terrain for the first time WITH your baby. You will create a new world together. It is such a beautiful experience.
Postpartum life is full of a love that is so overwhelming and beautiful that you will not remember how you ever existed before it. It’s full of late nights, rocking your baby and forming a bond that can never be broken. It’s about going through a transformation, becoming a new person. You are a MOTHER. It’s going through an incredible, wonderful metamorphosis, and looking back a year later and thinking, THIS is who I was meant to be. It’s about learning so much about yourself and about what really matters in life.
It is about feeling incredibly accomplished when you cook a meal, finish the laundry or get out for a walk with your baby. It is about bursting at the seams with excitement every time your little human accomplishes another amazing milestone. The joy that I get from Hudsons amazing little accomplishments outweighs any joy I have ever felt before. His first smile, his first foods, his first steps, his first word...
Those newborn days are hard, and you will feel like you are in a fog. But let me tell you mama, that fog will clear and before you know it your baby will grow more and more independent by the day. You will sleep again. You can do this Mama. You are not alone.
You are embarking on life's most beautiful journey, motherhood. Embrace each and every little moment, and know that time has a way of picking up speed, and you don't want to miss a moment.
Katherine is a native Cape-Codder and mother to her beautiful one year old little boy Hudson. Katherine is a full-time mommy and entrepreneur running two local businesses. She works along side her father, John Perkins, at Bay State Merchant Services, where she is the Northeast Sales Director, working with local businesses and helping them save money on their credit card processing services. When she is not managing BSMS, she is inspiring other like minded individuals to think outside of the box and sharing the opportunity that Arbonne International has to offer: premier health and wellness products and an exceptional business opportunity. She is passionate about helping other people and has worked in the health and wellness field for over ten years, helping hundreds of people achieve their personal wellness goals. She loves empowering people to live their best life.
Katherine is an outdoor enthusiast. She loves spending her summers on the boat, riding her bike and competing in local races, paddle boarding with her Husband, participating in sprint triathalons and road races, but most of all spending time outside and enjoying the beauty of Cape Cod.
Kats blog, https://livingwhatyoulovewithkat.weebly.com, is focused on sharing her journey of attracting abundence into her life to inspire you to do the same. She will work with you to help you achieve your ideal life and optimal health through business development coaching, personal development techniques, wholesome nutrition and mindfulness practices. Her hope is that through your readings here, she will leave you with a little inspiration, a new workout to try, maybe a delicious recipe or a good laugh from her silly adventures with her boys.
"True success is when you reach back and bring someone along with you."- Joel Osteen
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Celebrate Springtime With These 3 Books
Spring has arrived!
It’s always fun to watch the changes that occur from season to season. Springtime brings with it so much new life and bright colors!
The 3 books are:
and then it’s spring by Julie Fogliano
When Spring Comes by Kevin Henkes
It’s Spring by Linda Glaser
I would highly recommend swinging by your library and checking out these 3 spring books (or any others you might find) and spending a few sweet moments sharing a book with someone you love.
Charissa was born and raised on Cape Cod. After 9 years away from the Cape, she and her husband returned home to start their family. A former 5th grade teacher, Charissa has spent the last 12 years at home with her 3 children while working various part-time jobs. Just about a year and a half ago she decided to pursue something she had been thinking about for many years; she started a blog! She loves sharing her passion for living a full life without all the busy over at http://www.thenotsobusymom.com/. You can follow her on Facebook and Instagram (@thenotsobusymom) to learn more.
Autism Awareness Month
As we enter Autism Awareness Month, many do so with a lot of enthusiasm and want to know how they can support the autistic people in their lives. I wanted to take the opportunity to address my opinions are hot-button, important topics, because it is an area that many have no idea is an issue. Language is powerful and we need to make a shift in how we speak about autistic individuals in order to give them the respect that every human being deserves, while also recognizing that there are popular hurtful images and organizations that people think are helpful.
I will cover the following topics: Language, Functioning Labels, Logos/Symbols, & Organizations. If you want to learn more about ways to support the autistic community during Autism Awareness Month or support to be supportive of the Neurodivesity Movement check out my blog on Remy's Rainbows about Autism Awareness Month!
Corinne is a wash-a-shore who grew up on Long Island, NY, but spent summers and vacations here on the Cape in Brewster. She moved to the Cape, full- time, shortly after college in 2000, and eventually settled in Falmouth in 2014, with her husband Rob. She is mom to her incredible autistic 6 –year-old son, Remy, stepmother to twins, William and Samantha, and eldest, Sophie who are all now young adults. Corinne is also a local community theatre director and actor and whose work on, and offstage, has been seen throughout the Cape. She also enjoys; knitting, crocheting, painting, reading, cooking and baking in her free time. In early 2018, her son Remy started on an artistic journey creating stunning images through fluid art. Corinne and her husband started “Remy’s Rainbows,” as a way to share Remy’s talents, as well as their unique journey with autism. You can follow their journey at www.remysrainbows.com and they can be found on FB, Twitter, Instagram and Etsy @remysrainbows.
This week on Cape Kids Cast with Easter approaching, the kids visit the Hot Chocolate Sparrow in Orleans, a local #CapeCod favorite! They explore all the delectable treats as well as how to become a chocolatier. Check out this very tasty interview with Larasa the candy manager!
Bridgeview Montessori School Open House
Bridgeview Montessori School to Hold Tuesday Tea Information Session for Prospective Families on April 9, 2019.
On Tuesday, April 9 between 4:30 pm and 5:30 pm, Bridgeview Montessori School will hold a Tuesday Tea Information Session for families interested in learning about a Montessori education for children ages 2.9 through 6th grade. Located at 885 Sandwich Road in Sagamore, the school will welcome families to explore the three programs that cater to each plane of development that Maria Montessori conceived of when she developed her pedagogy over 100 years ago. As is customary in a Montessori school, Bridgeview has a Children’s House serving students ages 2.9 to 6, an Elementary I serving students 6 to 9, and Elementary II serving students 9 to 12.
The Tuesday Tea Information Session held on April 9 will include presentations in each of the three programs, Children’s House, Elementary I and Elementary II, to demonstrate how Montessori is unique. Parents and caregiveres who choose to bring their children will be encouraged to observe them as they engage with the work and the environment. Suzanne Lawson, Director of Admissions, explains, “We think it is important for parents to know their school choices. All schools are not created equal and not all Montessori programs are the same. More than ever before, parents are actively invested in finding the just-right-choice school for their children. Our information sessions as well as visits during the school day are key for today’s discriminating and careful parents.” Additional visit dates as well as more information can be found by visiting www.bridgeviewmontessori.org.
To learn more about the school check out the Cape Kids Cast Interview with Suzanne Lawson and one of their students!
Easter Egg Hunt at the JBPL! Bring your basket to collect eggs with our special guest Bunny.Friday, April 12th 10:00am, Library Grounds
Rain or Shine!! For children age 6 and younger. Don't be late-it's over in a flash!
Cape Cod Mall Scavenger Hunt- Hyannis, April 13th 10:00am
Marstons Mills Village Association 2nd Annual Egg Hunt- Burgess Park, Marstons Mills April 13th10:00am
Annual Egg Hunt- Flax Pond Recreation Area, South Yarmouth April 13th 10:00am
Easter Egg Hunt- Wingate Residences, Brewster April 13th 2:00pm-5:00pm
Annual Easter Egg Hunt April 13, 2019 at 10:45 AM – 11:30 AM Onset Bay Association Union Ave, Onset, MA 02558, United States Bring the kids for this fun filled EGGstravaganza! Thousands of eggs are filled with all kinds of goodies and spread around for this special day! Don't forget your Easter basket!All children up to age 12 are welcome. A separate area for wee ones under age 5 will be made available. Pancake breakfast before the event at Marc Anthony's from 9-11 a.m. Pancakes, sausage, juice or coffee. $5 for adults, $3 for children. All proceeds from the pancake breakfast will support the Wareham Best Buddies Program Easter egg hunt begins at 11:00 at Prospect Park/Bandshell and continues until all the eggs are gone! Free! Don't be late! This event is co-sponsored by Marc Anthony's, Wareham's Best Buddies Program and the OBA Rain date is Sunday, April 14
Easter Egg Hunt
Saturday, April 13, 2019 at 10 AM – 11 AM
Join us for our annual Easter Egg Hunt! Registration will start at 9:30am with the hunt beginning at 10:00. Children ages 7+ will be able to to experience our more challenging hunt throughout camp. Y Members $5 Program Participants $7
Annual Egg Hunt- Harwich Community Center, Harwich April 19th 3:30pm
Flashlight Egg Hunt Apr 19, 7:15 PM · Gleason Family YMCA · Wareham A fun evening searching for eggs & prizes in the dark for kids ages 2-10 yrss old. Bring a flashlight & basket or bag to search for eggs as the hunt starts at dusk, about 7:30pm. Pre-school age hunters (age 2-5 yrs) will go first & will search in a fenced in area, then the bigger kids (6-10 yrs) will be released to seek eggs around Camp Nep-In-Nae. Bounce house & crafts will be available before & after the hunt. $5 per child members, $7 per child general public until 4/16 then $7 members & $9 general public at Welcome Center Desk. Limited to the first 200 to register so sign up early as kids will have an eggcellent time at our 3rd annual Flashlight Egg Hunt.
Osterville Village Library Egg Hunt- Osterville Village Library, Osterville April 20th 9:15am
Easter Egg Hunt on the Beach at Sea Crest Beach Hotel- Sea Crest Beach Hotel, Falmouth April 20th 11:00am-3:00pm (RSVP by April 18th)
Community Easter Egg Hunt- Brewster Council on Aging, Brewster April 20th 1:00pm
Easter Egg Scramble Falmouth Village Association Saturday April 20 from 10-11:30amThe Easter Bunnies from Falmouth Village Association will scatter 8,000 treat-filled Easter eggs across library lawn for your little ones to collect. Get your photo taken with the Easter Bunny, and fill your Easter basket to kick off the holiday! Photos with Easter Bunny 10-11 Scramble - 11am **Event is weather permitting**
Easter Egg Hunt- John Wesley United Methodist Church, Falmouth April 20th 10:00am
Easter Bunny Photos- Mashpee Commons (near the Red Balloon Toy Shop) April 20th 12pm-4pm
Bartlett’s Farm Easter Egg Hunt- Bartlett’s Farm, Nantucket April 20th 10:00am
Martha’s Vineyard Egg Hunt- Farm Institute, Edgartown April 20th 10:00am
Easter Brunch Buffet and Egg Hunt-Chatham Bars Inn, Chatham April 21st 10:00am (reservations required)
Egg Hunt at St Christophers Episcopal Church, 625 Main St, Chatham April 21, 2019 10:30-10:45am
Easter Brunch Train- Cape Cod Railroad, Hyannis April 21st 11:00am departure (tickets required)
Cape Cod Moms