“Contrary to what many people think, intelligence is a poor predictor of personal, academic and professional success. Emotional IQ is where it’s at!”
The Fine Art of Etiquette
By Tracy Lamperti,
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
Photography by Kelly Cronin Photography, at Chatham Bars Inn,
June 7th, 2014
The benefits of teaching young people manners and etiquette are seen at home, in the community and in the classroom. There is such enormous pressure, pretty much from when the child is in the womb, to begin stimulating their brain. It is all well intended. We want our children to be smart and successful. I’m sure “smart” and “successful” are equated with happiness. From headphones channeling classical music through the belly, to Little Einstein videos for our pre-talkers, to interactive electronic games with bells and whistles for our toddlers, to ipads for all ages, we are trying to pave the way for our children to a successful future.
I’m not criticizing or saying these things are bad or even unnecessary. Look at me here. I’m barely out of my first trimester and I’m infusing my little one with Mozart!
But more and more, our children are entering preschool lacking the skills of “please and thank you.” We, as a culture have normalized this by saying that this milestone comes later, AFTER they have experienced the social world of preschool. Somehow they move on to kindergarten with much of their alphabet under their belt, but still no “P’s and T’s” without being prompted.
Aside from the fact that it is just refreshing to be with a happy, polite child (even if they don’t know the whole alphabet or how to count to 100), there are good reasons to undertake a diligent effort to teach our children these skills of social grace, equal to, or greater than the efforts that are going into academic knowledge.
· Proper behavior, manners and knowing how to present oneself are the backbone for confidence, self-respect and respect for others.
· Contrary to what many people think, intelligence is a poor predictor of personal, academic and professional success. Emotional IQ is where it’s at!
· Harvard University Stanford Research Institute, and Carnegie Foundation found that 85% of our career success depends on social skills.
· 43% of teachers in public schools spend more time dealing with behavioral issues than they do teaching. (April 2003, Public Agenda)
· In an ABC News Poll in 1999, 85% of respondents felt that the world would be a better place if we just said “please” and “thank you” more often.
· Someday, everyone is going to be at a school dance, banquet, dinner, church service like a wedding or a funeral, on a date, invited to the girl/boyfriend’s parent’s house for dinner. In my experience, people are often reluctant to go to special events, or suffer unnecessary levels of anxiety because of not being sure about how to act or what to do.
Studies also show that children are more receptive to instruction and direction on issues of manners and etiquette from non-family members in a learning setting.
It was such a wonderful experience teaching this group of nine girls and enjoying our last meeting at Chatham Bars Inn. To see these young ladies practicing their newly learned skills in such a beautiful environment was an experience for all of us!
I have heard the request for a boy’s class and there is one in the works. I look forward to teaching many more young people these valuable skills that they will carry with them wherever they go.
Check in on next week’s blog post for a link to new classes, beginning in September!
Put manners together with confidence and our young people are going to be winners and leaders!
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
Hi Everyone! My name is Tara McGinn and I am a local stay at home mom on Cape Cod. I am also an Independent Designer for Origami Owl. I wanted to introduce myself and the product. Origami Owl is the company that created the Living Locket. The Living Locket tells your story, your goals and passion with over 200 charms. They also spread the mission " A Force For Good " and 'Pay it Forward" motto. I love this company and what it stands for. I also do a lot of Fundraisers, At home parties, Vendor events or just last minute request for gifts. These products are awesome, unique, pieces of Jewelry. So if you are interested in hosting a fun party or learn more about Origami owl , please Stop by my Facebook page and be kind and like my page too! Thanks and Enjoy the weekend.
Cape Moms, Are you ready to put your foot down and get healthy and fit? As a mother of two, I can relate that there is just not enough hours in the day to stay on track. Over the years, obesity, food binging and lack of exercise has really became a huge impact all over the country! Now is the time to not only better yourself, but to better your whole family! I have created a page for not only us mothers, but for all genders and ages. It will have updated workouts, health tips, meals, fun facts, and much more! This is the page you want to have pop up daily to keep you motivated, dedicated, and to give you great ideas for all your health and wellness needs! Come and click the check mark and start following today!! https://www.facebook.com/KristySassone
Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines Unveils New Speed Slides And Many More New Attractions Entering 7th Season. Located in Candia, N.H.Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines is New Hampshire's Home Town Water Park perfect for young families.
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Advertised as 'gravity defying and only for the brave and fearless at heart, The Shooting Stars, two 40 foot vertical dropping speed slides will be celebrated and officially open following the cutting of a ribbon on Saturday, June 21st. It's been a long time in the creating, but on opening day for Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines in Candia, N.H. customers will be told to 'cross their arms, make a wish' and shoot the 40 foot vertical drop along 131 linear feet and fall into a smooth landing of cool water.
The 'Shooting Stars' were slated to open last season, but a southern hurricane damaged the manufacturing facility and to the disappointment of Liquid Planet and their customers the slides sat mostly erect, but not usable. "The delay makes the opening of the slides that much more exciting and we are thrilled to kick off our seventh season with a ribbon cutting celebration to officially open them." Said Kevin Dumont, President of Liquid Planet Water Park L.L.C. "The Shooting Stars are the real deal when it comes to thrilling water park attractions. They are steep, fast and a real adrenalin rush." Dumont said.
The Shooting Stars certainly look official. They are decorated with racing stripes and checkered flags line the slide course. "These new slides will allow our guests to have a lot of fun racing against each other and we hope to incorporate races and competitions." Said Kelly Dumont, General Manager of Liquid Planet Water Park L.L.C. "They also bring the element for older kids to get more from the park experience." She said.
Entering its seventh season, Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines will introduce several new features and attractions to the park including a new dock and slide set up and expanded beach at 'Crater Lake,' 'Fantasy Falls,' a cascading waterfall down the granite cliff, a newly built 'Cosmic Camp,' summer camp, expanded concrete areas, roofed shade areas, a remodeled zip line gear up station, a revamped miniature golf course and many aesthetic touches ranging from landscaping to paint.
"We have brought new features and attractions every year since we opened in June of 2008." Says Kevin Dumont. "We listen closely to all of the feedback from our guests and work hard to incorporate the changes and improvements noted as creating a better park experience." He said. "The opening of The Shooting Stars and multiple other items we are introducing this season are the goals we set to be in place for our guests this year. We are thrilled and excited to open." "It is our ambition to be New Hampshire's hometown water park and we're on our way." He said.
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7/12/2014 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM A Day in the Park for Chloe
Armstrong Kelley Park, Osterville, MA
Join the Ewing family as they host their 5th annual A Day in the Park for Chloe in memory of their precious daughter who was born still at 35 weeks.
The day will feature food, games, raffles and lots of fun! Festivities begin at 11 am. For more information or to register please email Sabrina Ewing: email@example.com
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Proceeds from this event will benefit The SUDC Program's advocacy efforts which includes our support of The Sudden Unexpected Death Data Enhancement and Awareness Act. The CJ Foundation for SIDS is in full support of this bill! Serving as the most influential piece of SIDS/SUID/SUDC legislation to date, The Sudden Unexpected Death Data Enhancement and Awareness Act (S 314/HR 669) promises to promote unprecedented, positive change by improving death-scene data collection methods, establishing nationwide awareness and education plans, and expanding support services for families in need.
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With Summer here on Cape Cod it is important to practice #WaterSafety and be able to recognize the signs of Secondary Drowning! As parents, we never want to see anything happen to our wonderful children but with water sometimes we have limited control. We have covered some important topics before regarding Water Safety but it is important to focus on Secondary Drowning as this can occur anywhere from 1-24 hours after having being exposed, which means it can really sneak up on you if you do not know what to look for.
"Secondary Drowning (and near-drowning) is one of the post-immersion respiratory syndromes. It is defined as deterioration of pulmonary function that follows deficient gas exchange due to loss or inactivation of surfactant."
This basically means a person (children or an adult) inhales even a small gush of water (bath, pool, lake or ocean) it can irritate the lungs and cause swelling. Usually very little water is present in the lungs when secondary drowning occurs, but the small amount of liquid is enough to hinder the lungs ability to provide oxygen to the bloodstream.
The definition of secondary drowning is a matter of controversy and the term is probably inappropriate. Secondary drowning is a misnomer because victims who develop acute respiratory distress syndrome after drowning have not had a second submersion episode.
According to the WHO, "Drowning is the process of experiencing respiratory impairment from submersion/immersion in liquid." This definition does not imply fatality, or even the necessity for medical treatment after removal of the cause, nor that any fluid necessarily enters the lungs." The WHO recommends though that this term not be used as really what is occurring is drowning, the term secondary can be misleading. But for lack of a better way to help people understand "Secondary Drowning" is the term used by the general public.
Secondary Drowning can happen after being at the beach, pond, pool or even the bathtub so it is important to familiarize yourself with the signs and symptoms as it just might help you save a life later!
The Pool Safely campaign and USA Swimming released statistics in June 2014 on drowning deaths in spas and pools in the U.S. According to their data there have already been 95 drowning deaths through May 31 in children under 14. Seventy-four of these deaths involved children under five. They do not track how many of these deaths were from secondary drowning.
"Dr. Paul Pepe, of the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, said although this is an uncommon scenario it does happen. He said three or four hours later children who fall into a pool can develop pulmonary edema even if rushed to the emergency room immediately. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) does not differentiate between drowning and secondary drowning, so statistics on how often the situation occurs are hard to find, although WebMD says it is probably on 1-2 percent of all drownings. However, according to Pepe, drowning is the number one cause of deaths among children under the age of five. He says it takes only “the blink of an eye” for a child to get water in their lungs that can cause drowning. He said that in secondary drowning, pool water can damage the lining of the lungs, essentially causing lung failure hours after the child is out of the pool." (Source)
See this recent news story for one mom who remembered the signs after seeing it on the news and then acted immediately to save her child's life!
By Tracy Martin-Turgeon
When the warm weather starts to roll in to summer, chances are you will go swimming at the beach, a community center or a backyard pool. Basic safety tips are essential to ensure safe swimming. Some tips to help make your summer enjoyable.
Making swimming and water play a priority.
Stay safe in your back yard in swimming pools.
· Teach your children basic swimming tips in your pool.
· Making children aware of pool drains, pipes, ladders that may cause them to become stuck or pulled under water.
· Always have a portable phone close by incase you need to call 911.
· If a child is missing, check the pool first.
· Make sure your pool has a lock and gate when not in use.
· Install pool alarms this could possible save a life.
· Maintain your pool so it is operating properly.
· If possible, enroll your child/children in swimming classes.
Enjoy your summer, use safety tips and caution at all times. Drowning statistics have grown over the years. Make this your top priority as a parent to ensure your child is safe at all times near water. Make sure you have a first aid kit handy, a pair of scissors to cut hair or clothing if they get stuck or entrapped, a portable phone, and a flotation device and you will be on your way to an enjoyable summer.
Tracy Martin-Turgeon has been in the field of early childhood education for 22 years. She started with The Children's Workshop in September 1999 as an assistant director and she is currently Vice President of Operations, overseeing seven facilities throughout Rhode Island and Massachusetts including Bourne and South Dennis. The Children’s Workshop provides quality child care and early education for Infants, Toddlers, PreSchool, PreK, Before & After School and Summer Camp. For more information visit http://www.childrensworkshop.com/
Recently a friend of mine told me about a great new company in Newton, MA called Crudité Creations, owned by Lauren Brooks, who cares about community and children's health! We were offered a chance to try out one of their tasty creations which was delivered by David promptly on Father's Day morning! I was thrilled to meet him and told him how great of an idea I thought this was! Plus the fact they will deliver to Cape Cod makes this particular mom an even bigger fan!
The Tiny One and I were excited to try our very own Vegetable Bouquet! As soon as I unwrapped everything I was astounded at the attention to detail and creativity that had gone into creating such a beautiful arrangement. Crudite Creations are vegetables arranged in an artful way and they are perfect for events and celebrations. BUT they are also a fun way to get kids and picky eaters to eat more healthy veggies especially since they are cut and arranged in such a visually appealing manner.
The Tiny One and I went right to work on the olives, radishes, zucchini and squash, dipping them into an extremely delectable white bean dip. We sampled a little bit of everything and the Tiny One was very excited by the "itty bitty baby corns". We shared with family and friends and enjoyed them for snacks, lunch and even cooked up a bunch of them to enjoy with our dinner one night!
With the Tiny One now in preschool, I loved having some of the leftover squash and zucchini pieces to share in his lunch or even for our picnic dinners. Apparently cutting them into shapes makes eating veggies more fun to kids, which means I am going to need a veggie cutting class with Lauren Brooks stat!
The company also sources all their ingredients from local suppliers and when available local farm stands!
The Tiny One and I were so pleased with our arrangement from Crudité Creations that he gave it the Tiny Thumbs Up! I urge you to give this brand new company a chance and try ordering one of your own for your self or for a friend or your next event! Try it out ASAP and save 15%!
Reasons Crudité Creations is AWESOME!
Crudité Creations is offering a special 15% off their vegetable bouquets to the Cape Cod area community for this week only. Orders need to be placed by Friday 6/27 at 1pm and delivery will take place on Saturday 6/28.
Crudité Creations (www.cruditecreations.com) was recently featured on WCVB’s Chronicle show as part of their “what’s new” segment, and is receiving widespread acclaim for their beautiful and healthy vegetable bouquets. The arrangements and their selection of gourmet dips are a perfect addition to any summer event or celebration.
To take advantage of this offer please log on to the Crudité Creations web store and use the “capecod” discount code.
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Disclaimer: Although I received an arrangement for free to sample and review for this blog, I was not paid for my review and all opinions are my own.
By: Gary M. DellaPosta, CPA
Here are some strategies that may increase the amount of aid for which your family is eligible:
Try to avoid putting assets in your child's name. As a general rule, education funds should be kept in the parents' names, since investments in a child's name can impact negatively on aid eligibility. For example, the rules for determining financial aid decrease the amount of aid for which a child is eligible by 35 percent of assets the child owns and by 50 percent of the child's income.
Example: If your child owns $1,000 worth of stock, the amount of aid for which he or she is eligible for is reduced by $350. On the other hand, the amount of aid is reduced by (effectively) only 5.6 percent of your assets and from 22 to 47 percent of your income.
Reduce your income. Income for financial aid purposes is generally determined based upon your previous year's income tax situation. Therefore, in the years immediately prior to and during college, try to reduce your taxable income. Some ways to do this include:
Have your child become independent. In this case, your income is not considered in determining how much aid your child will be eligible for. Students are considered independent if they:
Gary DellaPosta is a CPA and founder of the firm: Gary M DellaPosta, CPA's & Business Advisors. A graduate of Bryant
We really love the Kids Academy app! It is the perfect learning app for my preschooler! He and I loved the graphics and bright colors. The games which focus on letters, number sense, tracing, puzzles, reading and so much more are age appropriate and fun according to my 4 year old. There is frequent positive reinforcement and encouragement for the kids as they do the activities. I was most excited to try the reading readiness activities and was impressed at how quickly my son caught on and began zipping through the activity! He also really loved the number tracing activity and throwing them in the bucket! He likes throwing things in buckets in real life too! We think this is a perfect app to get darted with to get your preschooler ready for kindergarten as well as for reviewing and reinforcing basic foundation skills that they will use for the rest of their lives!
Download the app for free here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/preschool-kids-games-kid-puzzles/id543851593?mt=8
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Cape Cod Mom Advisor Melinda Lancaster Shares A Collage Modification for Parents of Special Needs Children
By: Melinda Lancaster
One of the things parents of special needs children have to think about all the time is “modification”. How can I modify this bed so my child is comfortable? How can I modify this spoon so they can feed themselves? How can I modify this game so they can play with the family? It’s a nearly constant activity. And the same goes for teaching at home. How a parent modifies depends upon each child’s ability and skill level. Here are some ideas on how to modify just one particular activity-collages.
My main focus with Katelin is teaching her letters and how to read, but I also want to make it fun. Fun is important! Last year I collected close to 50 different magazines-National Geographic, Smithsonian, Time etc. with the idea to make collages when we did a lesson on a particular subject. This worked out great!
Here you see two different ways to work with collages. The first concentrated on a single animal-elephants. I cut several pictures out and gave Katelin an opportunity to choose which ones she wanted on her poster. She did this by pointing and by picking up the picture. If your child doesn’t have use of their hands you could try putting three pictures out-one to the left, one to the right, and one in the middle and watch for eye gaze.
The second collage was about marine life. This gave her an opportunity to scribble a bit, but what she really likes to do is glue!
This type of collage, one with a picture is kind of fun. This one about frogs was one of my favorites.
But, what about letters? This took some thinking on my part and a lot of searching for pictures of the same objects. The first letter we did was “F”, only because I already had a lot of “flowers” cut out and they were easy to find in the magazines.
First I got a piece of construction paper and let Katie pick the pictures. I helped her glue them on and did hand over hand to pat them in place. Once they were dried, I cut out the shape of the letter and….ta da!
You can usually pick up old magazines at your local library or ask around, friends and family are sure to have some hanging around. Plus, what a cool way to “upcycle” instead of just recycle! Have fun!
Melinda Lancaster is a children's author and a poet. Her books ("Tyler and the Spider" and "Grandma, Tell me If You Can) are published through Wiggles Press and her poem "Echoes" hangs in the Hyannis JFK Museum. After studying Russian Studies and Biology at Manhattanville College in Purchase, NY she enlisted in the US Navy. Her experiences in the Navy brought a deeper appreciation for the Freedom and advantages available in America and she is an avid volunteer-local veteran's center, library, and reading for the blind, and through "Wish Upon a Wedding". She began writing in her mid-thirties and is inspired by her experiences as a single mother, a parent of a disabled child, a step-mother and a grandmother to reach out to children. She is currently working on promoting her custom poetry through DKS Verse and starting the process for establishing a non-profit organization that provides terminally ill and disabled children with their own story book-where they are the hero! It is her hope to eventually be able to provide art supplies, writing supplies, books and equipment to facilitate writing, reading and drawing to these children. She is a member of the Cape Cod Writer's Center, Cape Cod Children's Writers and SCBWI. She has several works in progress and hopes to branch out from picture books into Middle Age and Young Adult arenas and is available for readings/crafts at schools, libraries and charity functions. In her free time she enjoys reading, knitting and going to the movies.
Early Childhood and Special Needs Educator Joan Walsh Offers Summer Tutoring Services to the Falmouth Area
Joan Walsh, the founder of Cape Cod Children's Writers, is a former Early Childhood and Special Needs Educator with a total of twenty-five years of experience.
Joan is offering one-to-one tutoring services to children in the Falmouth area, from pre-school through grade 5 in all subject areas for September, 2014.
Joan will follow your child's classroom curriculum and provide the extra help needed for your child to master learning concepts being introduced by classroom teachers. She will offer additional help is written expression.
For further information, please email Joan at firstname.lastname@example.org. Feel free to view the Cape Cod Children's Writers website at:
As a member of Sverve, Cape Cod Mommies is often given a chance to share check out products, share fun giveaways and offer opportunities for our readers! Right now they are running a really awesome and super easy Pinterest Contest that we wanted to share with our fan base.
5 Winners Will Receive a $100 Amazon Gift Card!
The contest is so so easy to enter:
1.) Click on the link at the bottom of our post (or here if you are anxious to get started)
2.) Follow Sverve's Pinterest Board and RePin the images you like OR pin your own inspiration with the hashtag #July4thBySverve.
3.) Enter your email and your pin link on the Sverve Form
That's it! We entered because who couldn't use $100!!!! It's totally worth a shot!
Sverve wants to sponsor your July 4th BBQ with an Amazon gift card - so go ahead and splurge on that second tub of potato salad! Enter by repinning your favorite part of July 4th or add your own pin using #July4thBySverve.
By: Robyn Morse Langmead
As a proud mother of 2 beautiful children, Aaron, now 2 years old, and Cadence, now 4 months, I have been in my share of situations where my kids needed to eat in a very public place. My son was breastfed for 11 months until he decided to wean himself. My daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and going strong. Restaurants, airplanes, & grocery stores are just a few places they would suddenly become hysterical and want to eat either for nourishment or for comfort. I would always feed them immediately before leaving my house, in hopes that they would make it through our adventure out. Yeah right, rarely did this happen! I had some version of the "hooter hider" but my strong-willed boy would swat it away, and my daughter tends to break her latch frequently and it's pretty challenging to get her back on without being able to see what's going on underneath the cover. I used to be sooo uncomfortable even nursing in public, or at least I thought it was me feeling uncomfortable until I really thought about it and realized that I have no problem bringing my baby to breast in any situation; however, I was always worried about making others uncomfortable. Even relatives visiting at my house have said things like "do you want us to step out of the room?" or "feel free to go in the other room if you need to." It's always hard to tell if they were saying that for my benefit or their own. All I know is that breastfeeding can feel very isolating when you think others are judging you for doing it. I've nursed in bathrooms, cars, behind a tree in a park, at unused booths at restaurants, in a friend’s bedroom at a summer party, and the list could go on. I've seen so many videos and internet links discussing women and how breastfeeding is accepted in public as long as the mother has a cover.
Well, the covers don't work for me and they don't work for a lot of moms. Because we keep covering up, society isn't exposed to a mother nursing her child which makes it feel "weird" or "wrong" to many people when they see breastfeeding in public. That's where this post is coming from. Now that I've made this realization, I've decided to put myself out there. My loving and supportive husband took this picture of me the other day giving my daughter a morning feeding. I want as many people as possible to see it and I hope I may inspire some other moms to share a picture of them too. Let's give society many opportunities to see this beautiful and natural act taking place so that when they see it in person, it becomes completely "normal" and common. The benefits of breastfeeding for both mother and child are ridiculously amazing! It's so sad to think that some moms choose to stop nursing or never start because of a lack of acceptance by the public. My hope is for all to see it and for it to be a step in the right direction of acceptance by all. I'd love for other moms to do the same if you feel the way I do.
Below, some other Cape Cod Moms have decided to join Robyn and share their breastfeeding pictures in the hopes that other moms will join us in our campaign to
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