By: Sung Bin
This week we have been all about Dragons. I try to find seasonal crafts for my three year old and I to work on together every week so we geared up for this one by reading some dragon stories and books. Our favorite is the Knight and the Dragon by Tomie de Paola, a story about unlikely friends, and Puff the magic dragon and Merlina and the magic spell (great book for harvest theme too), our close runner ups. Our dragon craft was a dragon puppet made out of craft or popsicle sticks, paper, paint, googley eyes and glue. First, we painted some 3" strips of paper and folded them accordion style for the body of the dragon. We cut out a dragon head and tail shape from paper and glued on eyes and decorated the tail. We used the pictures from the books to help with the head and tail cutouts. Then we glued the pieces together with the popsicle sticks glued an inch of the top of the stick to the base of the head and tail to move the dragon around. My daughter wanted one side of the dragon's face to be "fierce" and the other to be "happy" so we just drew and glued the two faces to be able to flip them. While waiting for all the glue to dry, we also baked some dragon bread by shaping bread dough into dragons embellishing them with pumpkin seeds and raisins for the scales and eyes. It was a little treat/snack after our hard work of crafting. When we were done feasting, we had a little puppet show and story time by making up stories about dragons in caves. We had a great time making and baking. Next week we are planning to make some Pompom apples and bake apple muffins. Happy September!
By: Amy E
**** Update 7/9/15 Safety Insurance decided 2 years later to drop me as an insured driver after more than 7 years of loyalty despite no issues with my driving record. They refused to tell me the reason why, but upon further investigation and off the record conversations we found out this was due to the at fault driver being underinsured and as a result they are dropping me. I DO NOT ENDORSE SAFETY INSURANCE ANYMORE. We will NOT support any businesses that treat their customers this way and then refuse to give an answer. We find them to be rude and inepy. We strongly suggest you find your insurance elsewhere. We are currently searching for a new provider who will appreciate customer loyalty, especially loyalty from consumers who have EXCELLENT records who do nothing but pay thousands of $$$ every year!
I recently got into a bad car accident. Thankfully no one lost any limbs, suffered from uncontrolled bleeding
etc. I have been getting back to normal and recovering from my injuries, though it has been slow going. Another thankful thing was that there were no children involved in the actual accident. My Tiny One was happily at daycare when the accident took place and for that I am very thankful.
The insurance companies determined fault to be with the other driver who had broad sided me after passing a vehicle in front of her on the right at an intersection. Murray & MacDonald as well as Safety Insurance on my side were very quick and supportive and responsive to me as their client. Unfortunately on the other side of things USAA was not helpful, have dragged their feet & continue to do so. I believe the reason for this to be due to the extremely low coverage the other driver (from New Jersey) had- $5,000 in property damage coverage and less than the state MA minimum on Injury coverage. Because of this, USAA has been very difficult to deal with.
After the accident, one of my primary concerns was my child’s car seat. I had purchased a Britax marathon when my child transitioned from an infant carrier. I have to tell you I have been beyond happy with the purchase and the peace of mind it brings me in knowing my child is safe. Car seats are NOT a cheap investment by any means. Also as many of you may already know, if a car seat is in a car when an accident happens then the seat must almost usually be replaced. This is true whether a child is actually in the seat or not at the time of the accident. My accident in particular definitely met the standards to be replaced.
The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration as well as the seat manufacturers take the position that the seat
Unfortunately the adjustors (plural as we had to go thru several to get results) at USAA were unhelpful in the car seat area. Technically they should replace the car seat since their insured was at fault. They kept claiming that depending on the coverage issue they could reimburse me; however I don’t have $300 extra bucks lying around to replace my car seat and then cross my fingers and hope that there is money left to reimburse me. USAA just didn’t care. Agent S.T. even tried to tell me he “understands how I am feeling,” as I sat crying on the phone when he explained about the coverage issue. No I’m sorry S.T., you do NOT understand in any way shape or form. You are not a single mother who was in a car crash and out of work who has to pay for childcare regardless of having an accident or unpaid week from work. You are not sitting here worrying about whether if we are in a subsequent crash if we would actually survive. You are sitting in some office someplace else and I am just another person on this planet with billions. But I do understand you are just doing your job albeit a bad job, as you really did nothing to resolve the issue quickly and just continually made excuses because of the low coverage on your insured’s end. It is seriously insulting to my intelligence to patronize me S.T.
Thankfully my local insurance company, Murray & MacDonald, and agent had my back EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! My agent from Murray & MacDonald, Sara was AMAZING. She worked nonstop with Safety & USAA (and still is) on my claim, trying to get things resolved, trying to get me back into a safe vehicle and
trying to get my child back into a safe car seat. But USAA would not budge on the car seat and kept delaying responses to paying for the car seat until they “knew the total damage and cost to fix my car.” I particularly loved the line that agent, S.T., gave to us where he stated, “Well we have to protect our insured.” Um yea, well your insured is at fault for not paying attention, being impatient and passing on the right at an intersection, and by the way who is protecting my child?! You would think that USAA, which does A LOT of business with military families in this country, would be more empathetic to situations that involved children or families, but they were not.
My agent, Sara and Shirley (From Safety) were my hero’s! They
kept on fighting for me despite having calls ignored by USAA, threatened to be hung up on, and other delay tactics. Eventually it came to a point where I couldn’t sleep one night because of
the car seat issue. I kept having nightmares that we would be in a subsequent crash and the seat would fail and my child would be hurt. I know it is a mother’s fears, some may even think I was overreacting however I was not okay with leaving my son’s safety up to chance. At 3am one day I sat down and sent an email to Shirley and Sara and explained just how upset I was about the car seat situation. Seeing as how USAA was dragging their feet, I asked Shirley to request a signed letter from USAA stating that they would be liable for my child if the car seat failed to protect him in a subsequent crash. After seeing just how upset I was (and believe me she was just as frustrated with USAA as we were. She had even specifically told them don't worry about the repairs to the car we will cover it just get Amy a new car seat and get her into a rental so she and her son can be safe-but USAA just didn't care), Shirley immediately got in touch with me early in the morning and told me that they would take care of my car seat and replace it because they did not want me to be upset and frustrated. I had to send my original receipt of purchase to them as well as research the current prices and deals on getting the new seat. I sent all the documentation to her and shortly thereafter Shirley emailed me back saying she had cut a check and sent it to me. I received the check and immediately purchased a new car seat which has arrived and is already installed in the car I am temporarily in! I feel so much better now-even though I don’t have the car back yet, I know my son is safe!
The saga is still far from over. Right now the car is still being fixed. USAA’s response to finding out Safety had helped with the seat: “oh we see Safety helped you with the seat, that’s nice.” Thanks USAA, thanks for absolutely nothing! Thanks for ignoring messages left for you, thanks for transferring the claim from one person to another to delay it, thanks for not advising your insured to get better coverage upon moving to Massachusetts. Thanks for your nasty snide comments about the witness: “oh I don’t know how reliable 14 year old’s are.” Probably about as reliable as your 22 year old underinsured driver… just a thought. Maybe other people have had positive experiences with USAA before but I am not one of them. I WILL NEVER USE YOU AS AN INSURANCE COMPANY OR REFER ANYONE TO YOU. In fact I would advise people who have you to make sure that when you move from state to state with USAA insurance, that you should check the state minimum’s and make sure USAA adjusts your policy accordingly because USAA certainly is not going to do it for you. After dealing with them it doesn't seem to me like they have their client's best interests in mind.
Thankfully Sara though was by my side. I was out of work for a bit immediately after the accident but Sara was such an asset and I felt s me obtain great coverage on my car so that when things like this happen the car can get fixed. It was comforting knowing she had my back and I could focus on feeling better. Every day she worked hard at making sure everyone had the proper paperwork, that people had the pictures of the scene, that liability was being determined…. Seriously this girl did not stop, I don’t know if she slept either! I know she is also a working mom, so I think she understood how frustrated I was. I definitely did not have the energy to deal with process or some of the people on the other insured’s end. Sometimes after trying to talk to USAA, my headaches would increase from all the stress from just dealing with uncooperative people. But Sara had unending patience and kept persevering despite USAA blocking us every step of the way.
When the other driver failed to leave any insurance information at the scene of the accident or with the police officer, it was Sara who helped track down the owner of the other vehicle and get their insurance information. I could barely function after the accident so having Sara take care of everything for me between Safety and USAA was amazing. She copied me on every single email they went out and gave me daily calls and updates to get things settled. I don’t think I can even express how grateful I was to have someone fighting for me and my son. I truly felt like I was her priority and that she cared about the situation.
Sara and Murray& MacDonald have been my local agents for about 5 years now and I have never once been disappointed. And this recent situation was no different. Within an hour of the accident, Sara was already preparing paperwork to send to the proper people and checking on me while I was in the Emergency Room.
Because of Murray MacDonald’s hands on approach and service they have earned a customer for life!
Technically I could probably go through Safety myself directly however having a local insurance agent really makes a difference when the unexpected happens! Having a local agent helps ensure the fact that they actually know YOU and YOUR situation. They are invested in their community and their clients. I truly felt like I was family in this situation and that they, Sara in particular fought as hard as a mother Bear would for her children. And she did it for me and my family. Now that is AMAZING service!
I want to thank Murray & MacDonald for their amazing support in dealing with such a difficult situation. I
would recommend them to anyone! And if you don’t use them then I definitely recommend finding a local company that will have your back!
I want to thank Shirley from Safety Insurance for working with Sara and me so diligently. Also thank you for understanding my situation and making sure my son was going to be safe.
And I want to thank Sara most of all though, without her I would still be trying to navigate the system and trying to get back to normal. Thank you Sara, thank you for fighting for me, thank you for caring, thank you for not letting it go until things have been made right and thank you most of all for protecting me and my son. Accidents happen but having such a supportive person in your corner makes all the difference!
Do you use a local insurance company? Have you had a great experience where you felt they fought hard for you! I'd love to hear about other local companies who are really invested in their clients!
Cape Cod Academy is pleased to welcome Ambassador Burghardt to campus on Wednesday, October 9 for a speaking engagement that is open to the public. This will be a great event and is definitely not one to miss. Several of our CCM team members will be there in attendance as well!
We look forward to a great experience!
Ambassador Burghardt will discuss his role as a diplomat, his 40 years experience in Asia and the dynamism of Asia today.
Please join us! Admission is FREE!
(This event is appropriate for anyone 7th grade and older)
By: Suzanne Golden, M.S., CCC-SLP
It’s fall! It’s time for apple picking, pumpkins, and falling leaves! And as always I am looking for ways to tie in speech and language skills to fall-themed activities. Here are some of my favorite activities to do with my daughter and some ideas for incorporating speech and language skills into this fall-themed fun!
· Take a nature walk and look for fallen leaves
· Use this time to talk about different characteristics of the leaves you find
· Look for all different types of leaves – big, small, varying shapes, etc…
· After you are inside, place a piece of paper over the leave and rub with a crayon
Carving pumpkins with young children can be challenging…and dangerous! Instead of carving, consider getting creative with arts and crafts supplies instead!
· Grab some paint, paintbrushes, glue, glitter, stickers and any other art supplies you can find!
· Buy glow-in-the-dark paint for some added night-time excitement!
· Let your child get creative and messy!
· Stop worrying about the mess and get creative too!
· Paint a faces or use different colors paint to create a pattern
· Head to a local apple orchard to do some
· If the orchard has a map, look at it with your child and map out the route you will take to pick your apples
· Count the apples as you put them in the
· Talk about the characteristics of the apples you find – are they all the same? What makes one different from another?
· When you get home, cut an apple open – what is inside?
· Talk about the parts of the apple – the skin, the stem, the seeds, etc…
· Cut the apple in half, dip it in paint and use it to make “apple prints” on paper
Break out the aprons, preheat the oven and do some baking!
· Allow your child to help you pour and measure all of the ingredients needed
· Introduce various “cooking” vocabulary words like “mixing”, “pour”, “preheat”, etc…
· While the apple crisp is cooking, help your child recall the steps that you followed in the recipe and retell the steps in sequence
· Keep out the aprons to make some homemade Pumpkin Play-dough
o 1 cup flour
o 1/2 cup salt
o 2 teaspoons cream of tartar
o 2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
o 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
o 1 tablespoon vegetable oil
o 1 cup water
o Food coloring (6 drops of red and 15 drops of yellow)
o Combine dry ingredients in a saucepan. Add oil, water and food coloring. Whisk until smooth and continue stirring over medium heat. Cook for 3-4 minutes until a ball forms
o Let dough cool on counter and then knead it until smooth.
· After you have made the dough play with it to create fun, fall, play-dough creations!
What are your favorite fall activities? Leave a comment below to tell about your favorite fall-themed activity!
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you enjoy the time spent with your child and think about promoting good speech and language skills while you have fun together!
By: Jennifer L. Long, RN, NCN
As a mother myself, I know that we want what is best for our children. We want them to be safe, eat healthy, make good choices and become successful in everything they do. In the process of trying to do everything for our babies, we tend to neglect our health, nutrition, hobbies and what we enjoy doing. It does not have to be this way! There is a way to have it all. To live a healthy lifestyle, maintain a healthy weight while influencing our kids positively. Children are a product of what they see. What habits you possess now are almost certain to become visible in your children, as they get older. I have found a way to incorporate my children in a healthy lifestyle and I’m getting in the best shape of my life doing it!
Stabilizing your blood sugar by eating within an hour of waking, within an hour of bedtime, a balance of protein, fats and carbohydrates every 3-4 hours is the key to unlocking your body’s full potential; releasing stored body fat and finally seeing the definition you have always wanted to see. The bonus, MORE ENERGY and NO MORE CRAVINGS! You can eat less more often and NEVER feel hungry or deprived again. No more yo-yo diets that will fail you time and again. No more missing out on family functions or BBQs or dinner out with the girls. You can still eat the foods you love while feeling and looking AMAZING. Oh and those
mood swings? Yes, they will be controlled because you are creating homeostasis (balance) in your body. Stabilizing your blood sugar will in turn balance hormones to control the release of cortisol, a hormone released when the body is under acute stress. Chronic stress contributes to increase in belly fat due to the constant release of cortisol, which sits right where you hate it most. This is why losing weight after a baby can be more difficult. The lack of sleep causes more stress and for an extended period of time, which also can contribute to skipping meals.
Exercise is important as well. You must incorporate core strengthening, interval training and fat burning cardio exercise each week.
Supplementation is important. Eating every 3-4 hours can be a difficult task for some. A complete meal replacement, shake or a bar can easily fill in difficult meal times and close those gaps where a meal might get skipped. Antioxidants are highly necessary to combat free radicals, which cause oxidative damage to your cells. In order to maintain the level of antioxidants high enough to prevent oxidative damage, you must eat 13 servings of fruits and vegetables a day. If that were difficult for you or your family, a supplement would be
beneficial for you. This is also true of our picky little eaters.
The first thing my clients report is more energy, no cravings and better sleep! The inches and weight follow. There is no quick fix or miracle pill to lose weight, but there is one thing that will guarantee you positive results, quality nutrition, hard work, dedication and a commitment to yourself. We moms are super heroes, if we want our kids to look and feel their best, shouldn’t we?
Jennifer L. Long, RN, NCN
There are a lot of fun activities going on Cape Wide for Halloween. Here are just a few of the wide amount of events taking place. Check back here as we will be updating this often. If you have an event you want added please email us at email@example.com
Safe Trick or Treat
Where: Along Main Street Hyannis
When: 4:00 - 6:00 PM
Businesses along Main Street will pass out candy to trick or treaters!
Halloween Kids Fest
Where: Tony Andrews Farm, 394 Old
Meetinghouse Rd., Falmouth, MA
When: Saturday & Sundays in October starting October 5-October 27, 2013
There will be tractor rides, pumpkin picking and a kid friendly haunted house! (Note: I would not recommend this for children 4 and under even in the daytime) There is a cost for the Haunted House
Where: Cape Cod Museum of Natural History, 869 Main Street, Route 6A, Brewster
When: Sunday, October 27, 2013, 3:00 PM - 6:00 PM
The Brewster Chamber of Commerce and the Cape Cod Museum of Natural History are partnering to host Green Halloween, an afternoon of safe and spooky fun! Admission is $5 per child (ages 3 – 16) and includes a treat bag and scavenger hunt punch card. Adults are FREE. (Children must be accompanied by an adult.) Children can join the costume parade through the halls of the museum while searching for clues that win them entry to the Treat Trail, where goody bags will be filled. Ten activity stations feature crafts, games and music. Make flying bats and glow in the dark jelly fish, join in the pirate sing-a-long and more!
Barnstable Village's Haunted & History Walking Tour
Where: US. Coast Guard Heritage Museum , 3353 Main Street (6A), Barnstable
Fridays and Mondays from 7-10pm beginning October 4-November 15, 2013
Adults $20, Children $10
Are you looking for something out of the ordinary to fill your evenings? Join us as we walk the historic and haunted “Old Kings Highway” in Barnstable Village.. As the tour starts, you will hear stories of the conflict between the Loyalists and the American Whigs (Patriots) and how England had a stronghold on this small quaint town. There are over ten stops on the tour and eight have ghost stories. You will visit Cobb’s Hill Cemetery where many strange and unusual things have taken place. You will visit such places as the Barnstable Tavern & Restaurant where a mischievous specter lurks in the dining room. As we walk along the historic highway, there is a possibility that the tour may be followed by one of the town former residents. As the tour ends, you will enter the darken “Old Jail” built in the 1690’s by the order of Massachusetts Bay Colony Courts, which is actively haunted.
Ghost Town Haunted Attraction
Where: Aquarium Mall, 207 Commercial Street, Provincetown
When: 6-9pm on the following dates:
Friday, October 25, 2013; Saturday, October 26, 2013; Wednesday, October 30, 2013; Thursday, October 31, 2013; Friday, November 1, 2013; November 2, 2013.
Adults $17, Children $13
Prepare yourself for a frightful journey through condemned buildings, pirate ruins and scary grave-sites as you encounter terrifying creatures of the living dead. Keep your wits about you as you wind your way through areas of death, decay and doom trying to find your ultimate escape. The creatures of Ghost Town are dying for you to cross over and join them in a gruesome and grim afterlife.
Halloween Family Fun Night
Where: Heritage Museums and Gardens, 67 Grove Street, Sandwich
When: Friday, October 25 5:30 PM - Saturday, October 26, 9:00 PM
$12, Children under 2 are freeFeaturing festive, non-scary holiday kids activities, including the Toe Jam Puppet Band, games, creature-of-the-night crafts, temporary tattoos, carousel rides and more. Weather permitting, visitors will be able to explore the lighted Hart Family Maze Garden, take a tractor-pulled hay ride around the Parade Field, and play in Hidden Hollow, lighted specially for this event. Participants are welcome to dress in costume.
CAPE COD MALL HOSTS A SPOOK-TACULAR MALL-WIDE TRICK-OR-TREAT!
Where: Cape Cod Mall
When: 4pm October 31st
Cape Cod Mall hosts a fun and frightening trick-or-treating event. Come dressed in your Halloween costume and trick-or-treat throughout the mall at participating retailers that have a pumpkin sign in the window.
Harvest of Horrors
Where: Tony Andrews Farm 394 Old Meeting House East Falmouth
When: October 26 & 27 at 9pm
$10 per person
After 30 + years, the Harvest of Horrors has changed its format from a haunted house and stage show attraction to a haunted hayride throughout the trails on Tony Andrews Farm in East Falmouth, MA. Audiences will be thrilled by the surprise encounters of frightening scenarios while on the tram, and will have the added eerie experience of a haunted walk through dimly lit woods. Guests should be sure to dress appropriately and have proper footwear, and in addition should be physically able to negotiate walking on
uneven terrain at night.
16th ANNUAL TRICK OR TREAT STROLL ON MAIN STREET
Where: Along Main St Falmouth
When: Saturday, October 26, 2013 (Rain date - Sunday, October 27)
Halloween Parade begins at 1:00 PM on the Village Green. Village Merchants open their doors to hand out candy to the children as they pass by
Halloween Parade for Kids & Pups
Where: Mashpee Commons
When: Saturday, October 26, 1pm
1-2pm: Spooky activities and entertainment for the entire family.
2:30-3:30pm: Trick or treating (for kids and pups!) at the shops
3:30-5pm: Howl'oween Pawty in Central Square. Music, refreshments and entertainment.
Mashpee Dog Park will be taking photos for donations. So, make those costumes extra special.
By: Amy E
Update: Congrats to winner Sarah who won the Rachel Ray Casserole Dish!
Cape Cod Mommies was invited to attend the "Day of Play" event which we told you about, hosted by Birds Eye, Stop & Shop and the Boston Children's Museum. Birds Eye event sent us creative recipes for including vegetables in our meals as well as some fun Fred & Friends plates and even vegetables packed in dry ice (I also now know how to properly dispose of dry ice!)!!! They also sent us a Rachael Ray casserole dish and extra goodies to be used for a giveaway for our readers and fans!
Birds Eye also featured a local registered dietitian, Janel Funk, MS RD LDN, who spoke with attendees. Janel is the college dietitian for The Boston Conservatory and a consultant for Berklee College of Music Unfortunately for me I missed this portion of the event due to the awful traffic traveling to Boston that day.
I was able to speak with Janel a few days later via phone conference and get her nutrition philosophy and take on the event.
"My tagline is: helping you eat better one bite at a time because small changes can turn into big results." She loved the Birds Eye event because it was "helping parents make small changes that can lead to life altering results."
I was also thrilled with the colorful and creative cards with ideas for recipes. Honestly I think my favorite was the smoothie! I didn't realize that a combination of broccoli, cauliflower and carrots would be so good but it was! Janel also loved the idea of the vegetable smoothie! Note to self-I should make one of these at least once a week! Below I have included the cards with recipes for you!
Before you brainstorm some of those rules though, let me share with you our thoughts and experiences with the "Day of Play" and some of the fun things did!
The event was definitely a great idea and a fun way to get people, kids especially, excited about vegetables. I was impressed by the creative way Birds Eye engaged the audience with their displays. All were interactive which is so important for kids as they learn by actually doing. Dora was even on hand to show her support for the veggies!
The displays at the event were broken up into three parts: a Sampling section (where of course I hung out and sampled everything); the Make a Veggie Face section, where they turned your creation into a button you could take home; and a stationary bike station, where kids could pick their favorite veggie and race! Check out one of the races!
To help encourage more fun with vegetables, we are hosting a giveaway sponsored by Birds Eye.
One lucky winner will receive this Rachael Ray Casserole Dish with some surprises included! It would be perfect for the holidays coming up soon!
How to Enter:
Simply leave a comment on this blog post below telling us how you make veggies fun for your family.
Bonus Entry: Make a meaningful comment on ANY other blog post on our blog but you MUST come back and let us know which post you chose to comment on.
Rules: Giveaway opens on Sept. 18, 2013 and Ends on October 2, 2013 at 11:59pm. Any entries received after that time will be considered void. Winner must be a US residents 18+. Winner will be contacted via the email provided. If winner does not respond to the notification within 48 hours, a new winner will be chosen. Due to the size of the prize, winner is responsible for pickup of the prize which is located in Falmouth, MA.
By: Meghan B
Let me take a chance to introduce myself, my name is Meghan, and I would consider myself an average hard working mom. I have two children of my own, and a soon to be step daughter. My fiancé and I are getting married next month. This summer, my fiancé and I worked ourselves ragged saving for our upcoming wedding and vacation that we are taking with our family. In the midst of working three jobs I kept thinking to myself, there’s got to be a better way. I was missing the kids so much. There was so much that I wanted to do with them over the summer, but there just wasn’t enough time.
I had always toyed with the idea of getting in to direct sales. I’ve researched the subject a ton of times and whenever I went to a Pampered Chef or any other type of party, I always checked off that I was interested in
learning more about becoming a consultant, I just never followed through. This summer I went to a Thirty-One gifts party at my friends house, it was the second time I has been to one within a year. It’s funny though; there wasn’t anything special about this party that made me decide to sign on as a consultant. I didn’t even ask for info on becoming a consultant this time.
I eventually began talking with the consultant that hosted the party, and I did MORE RESEARCH. I started reading about direct sales online, I downloaded books about direct sales…..it was consuming my mind. If I have learned anything…it’s that if I can’t stop thinking about doing something…then I need to just take the plunge and do it. So I decided to sign up. I became a consultant with Thirty-One gifts on 8/15/13.
A short time later my starter kit arrived. I was so excited, it was like Christmas!
I was so nervous about starting this endeavor. I kept talking to friends, family, co-workers, anyone that I thought would be supportive of me selling Thirty-One gifts. I found that I had a lot more support out there than I thought I did.
I made a decision when I started Thirty-One, I decided that I’m going to start on this journey to be able to spend more time with my family in the long run. These faces are the reason why I am going to work as hard as I can at being a consultant.
I’ve set a goal for myself to become a director for Thirty-One gifts. I know that it’s going to take dedication, and hard work, but I will get there.
I hope that you will enjoy hearing about my journey on the way to becoming a director.
In the mean time if you would like more info on Thirty-One gifts please take a look at my website:
Until next month :) Meghan
We are excited to welcome new Advisor Jennifer L. Long, RN, NCN, owner of RNutrition Health & Wellness. Jennifer will be sharing current health, wellness & nutrition information & sharing tips on how to stay healthy with each passing season. We look forward to her blogs and welcome her to the team!
Hello everyone, name is Jennifer Long. I was born at Cape Cod Hospital at 11:32am on September 22, 1980. I grew up in the town of Yarmouth Port where I attended Trinity School of Cape Cod, now known as Trinity Academy. I was sent to public school for the first time in fifth grade to Mattacheese Middle School & went on to graduate from D-Y High School in 1998.
Being the oldest of seven children, my passion for helping & caring for others came to me at an early age. I always wanted to make people happy by making a difference in their lives. I truly began working towards this dream when I became an infant/toddler and preschool teacher. After years of potty training toddlers and teaching them to share toys, I was given the BIGGEST and most IMPORTANT job ever, being a mommy. By the time my first-born son was about 2 years old I had put in 15 years of teaching and decided I was ready to change careers. I started working as a personal care assistant for a home care agency. It was here that I found a passion for the medical field and started on my goals to becoming a registered nurse. I enrolled at Cape Cod Community College in 2006 and by 2010 I had earned my Associate Degree in Science in Nursing, then passed my state boards in August 2010. I was officially an RN! I enrolled within the next year at Curry College to get my BSN; I will be graduating with that degree in May 2014. While working various nursing jobs, I was quickly disappointed by what I envisioned myself as and what I was actually doing. Pushing meds and barely seeing patients was NOT what I went to school for, I went to promote wellness, better health and disease prevention, this was disease care! I decided to take a break from nursing and had my second baby boy.
After my pregnancy, I gained more weight post-partum. This was extremely upsetting because I had never let myself go like this! I was up to 246 pounds! I had just had enough of feeling helpless and hopeless. I knew that I had the power to change and I could totally help myself. I decided to completely take back control of my life and my body. I did not want my kids to have an overweight unhealthy mother and I was going to do everything I could to change!
Being part of one of the top health and wellness companies, I had access to an amazing weight management product, program and support. I took it on 100% and made it NOT optional. On February 25, 2012 I began my weight-loss, confidence-gaining program. I posted my before pictures on Facebook, which was
extremely difficult for me to do but I felt it was necessary to empower others and let them know they are not alone. I really wanted to help people and without even realizing it, I was already doing it. I was going to take my story and my struggles and help others change. If I could do it, they can do it!
Being involved with this company has and is still opening so many doors for me. Our spokesperson, Mark Macdonald is a fitness and nutrition expert, NY Times best selling author and is featured on CNN weekly. He is also the owner of Venice Nutrition and because of his involvement with the company I am involved with, I was able to become a Nationally Certified Nutritionist through Venice Nutrition. Now with 60 pounds of fat and countless inches off my body gone, dropping from a size 18/20 to a 10/12 and with this added credential to my name, I KNEW I could really change lives. I founded my own practice, RNutrition Health & Wellness in the spring of 2013. I have already helped a handful of people in this short time become successful. My significant other has lost 25 pounds, my best friend has shed 40 and I have others that are dropping inches and pounds
So I’m sure the question is how does it work? By stabilizing your blood sugar. By eating less, more often and eating in 3’s you can keep your body in a state of homeostasis, allowing the release of stored fat to be burned up in the muscle when you exercise. The result? More energy, less cravings, better moods and sleep, increase in libido, decrease in stress response, looking leaner and losing fat and gaining lean muscle. Imagine walking by a mirror to admire your hard work rather than avoiding it. That is body confidence!
I know that everyone learns differently and at their own pace, for that reason I start people at their own readiness level. Everyone has different needs, skills, struggles and weaknesses. I help people where they are and give them personal attainable goals. It’s about making small permanent changes. It takes 30 days to learn a new habit and 90 days to make that habit a lifestyle. Some people need more time than others; my clients and I discuss what they will need. I believe in a hands-on approach. I make myself available 24/7 via email, text and phone. I incorporate all aspects of health and nutrition into my assessments and teaching as well as a complete history.
My goal for the RNutrition program is to help people realize their full potential, to know that they can have success and to understand that through quality nutrition, fitness and strong relationships, they can and will achieve their own body confidence.
My mission as owner and founder of RNutrition Health & Wellness, is to teach everyone that counting calories is a thing of the past and to provide each client with the simple tools necessary to take back control over their health. By learning how to stabilize their blood sugar they will ignite their metabolism and transform themselves into fat burning machines. I want to eliminate the emotional stress of yo-yo dieting for my clients. My goal is to help people realize they don’t have to spend a fortune to be told how to restrict or deprive
themselves to get the results they want. They can learn how to look AND feel amazing at affordable rates, while still enjoying the foods they love. The uniqueness of being a Registered Nurse, a Nationally Certified Nutritionist and fitness coach means that I am able to provide a nutritional, health and fitness approach to each client.
Jennifer L. Long, RN, NCN
DBA RNutrition Health & Wellness
"Transformation Begins With Nutrition"
For more information I can be reached via:
Phone: (508) 360-2032
The annual Falmouth Rotary Craft Fair will take place again this weekend at the band shell next to Falmouth Harbor! Every year (even pre child), I look forward to going to this fabulous event! I have noticed the past several years that it has become more and more family friendly! Once again they will have the old time fiddle contest, sure to delight the ears of both the young and old! Prizes will be awarded as well! The Rotary Craft and Antique Fair is a huge fundraiser to raise money for scholarships that are given to local students including the famous junior year of college scholarship! So please come support your community! Check out the photos below!
Check out our post regarding the Rotary Craft Fair for 2012 plus you can check out Amy's 2012 Video of the Rotary Craft and Antique Fair!
This year Falmouth Rotary will also feature local LIVE musicians as well as a dance troupe as live entertainments! The dance troupe is the New England Ballet Theatre, located at 800 Falmouth Rd. in Mashpee MA. Come out and support our local artists as they share their talents with the community.
As always I like to highlight the things I am looking forward to seeing. This year the things I am MOST looking forward to are (in no particular order): The LIVE entertainment from the local musicians, the Fiddle Contest and the Dance demonstrations! The booths I am really looking forward to visiting are: Bzzyfingers (I know, I just can't get enough of her and her amazing creations!!!!!), A2ZBOWtique, my favorite woodworker, the Apple Cider donuts and the book section!!! This fair is a great place to get your holiday shopping done way before the rush! No Black Friday lines here baby!
We hope to see you there supporting our community, the scholarships and the local handmade products by our local vendors-you just may know some of these people so show your support!
By: Suzanne Golden, M.S., CCC-SLP
Recently, I have had several friends and family members approach me with questions about language development and the skills of the
children in their lives. Questions about when children should say their first words, how much of a child’s speech you should be able to understand and how many words a child should have by a certain age. The main theme I noticed is that people are unsure about when to seek out the help of a speech-language pathologist (SLP).
As a parent, I know that it can be hard to think that your child may be delayed in his or her development and it can often take a while to admit that you have fears or concerns. I think the best advice I can give in these situations is to seek the advice of an SLP. SLPs are trained in speech and language development and can offer advice and insight about your child’s skills.
Most SLPs offer free screenings to determine whether further evaluation is warranted. Speaking with an SLP
can ease your fears and put your child on the right track for speech and language development if there are any delays present.
Below are some “red flags” to think about in regards to your child’s speech and language skills.
· Excessive “tuning out” of surroundings
· Lack of awareness of sound
· Lack of awareness of environment
· Cry undifferentiated, problems sucking/swallowing
· Cannot focus, easily over stimulated
· Lack of awareness of sound, no turning to sound
· Lack of awareness of environment
· Infant does not appear to understand or enjoy the social rewards of interaction
· No babbling or babbling words with few or no consonant sounds.
· Infant does not jointly participate in interactions (e.g. does not use eye contact, does not engage adults with gestures or vocalizations)
· Infant does not appear to recognize that adults can be used to get things done.
· Same concerns as in 9-12 months
· Does not attempt to spontaneously use words or imitate words
· Child is more interested in objects and less interested in people.
· Child does not persist in communication, and gives up if the adult does not respond immediately
· Same as concerns in 12-18 months
· Reliance on gestures without vocalization
· Labeling of objects in place of commenting or gesturing
· Less than 50 words or does not put two words together by 24 months
· Frequent tantrums when not understood
· Echoing words the child hears
· Few or no multi-word utterances
· Does not demand a response from the listener
· Does not ask questions like “what?” or “why?”
Red Flags provided by: Toomey, K.A., Red Flags for Language Development, www.nwcenterkids.org
If you are concerned about your child’s language development call Golden Speech Therapy and schedule a free screening!
Golden Speech Therapy
The Court Process
Navigating Separation and Divorce in the Best Interest of the Child
by Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
***This is part of the Navigating Separation and Divorce in the
Best Interest of the Child Series
“It is to your benefit, emotionally and financially, for the two of you to agree on as many things as possible before going to court.”Barnstable Probate and Family Court
On many occasions, while sitting in the court room waiting to testify, I watch couple after couple approach the bench for the finalization of their divorce. The Honorable Justices Scandurra and Ryley sit at that bench throughout each year, reciting the final
order of divorce. Each person is asked, “Do you believe your marriage is irreconcilable?” What a depressing seat to sit in as the judge who legalizes the end of the “I do!”
The last thing that these judges want to deal with is disagreements from divorcing adults. For this reason, almost all cases are sent to the Probation Office first (at Barnstable Probate and Family Court). Almost all cases are required to participate in some level of mediation prior to going before the Judge.
It is to your benefit, emotionally and financially, for the two of you to agree on as many things as possible before going to court. The point is, both sides usually feel they are on the “high road.” Many couples expect to go through the court process and have it be determined that either they are “right” or that they have been “wronged” and the court process will reveal that “fact.”
At court, there is no “high road.” Frankly, the court really doesn’t have the time or interest in hearing anything about what happened between the two of you or how either of you see it. They want the financials and the parenting agreement (when there are children involved).
And the BEST mediators will always acknowledge, without hearing many details at all, that “There is ALWAYS more to the story!” and maybe aim you toward a therapist, but leave it out of mediation. In fact, this was illustrated so well a few years ago. I was providing counseling to a man going through a divorce. He and his soon to be x-wife were in a mediation session. The facts THAT HE REQUESTED were laid out on the table. The woman cleared her throat and said, “Mr. ------, there is way more to the story….” And as she began to continue, he interrupted her and said, “Mrs. ------, there always is. Now let’s move on.”
You may not agree, and some would contest this mediator by walking out and presenting to the court that another should be sought. But this mediator was doing his job.
Now, let’s say that you have concerns about your child in the care of your soon to be “X”. What are your
If there is an issue of domestic violence, you should be aware that you can seek assistance from Independence House, or another Domestic Violence center in your area. Because the next piece of
information that I will give, is that you need to be able to be open and honest during the court process if you have concerns. If you don’t feel safe being open and honest, you need to seek counseling from a professional for help in making the next step, and most importantly, ensuring the safety of the child, to your best ability.
Note: Any of these examples could read, “My wife….” But I have phrased them all “husband” since this is a “mommy” blog. There are many women making very poor decisions where their children are concerned and many diligent fathers trying to protect these children.
#1 – A large part of the break up was because of my husband’s drinking. He’s a big guy and believes he is fine to drive after having 5 or 6 beers. I’m not sure if he would drive with our 8 year old in the car.
#2 – My husband is addicted to porn. He is up till all hours involved in porn. On overnights, our 3 year old sleeps in the same bed with him.
#3 – My husband just doesn’t pay attention. He goes out to the garage and works on his car and leaves our 4 year old in the house watching TV.
#4 – My husband is abusing pain meds. He is a really good dad but when he “needs” his pain pills he will put
our child in the car and drive an hour to pick them up, probably from some unsavory location or person.
#5 – I heard a rumor that my husband is dating a woman who sexually abused a younger boy.
I could go on all day with examples that have presented in my office. Some are dreadfully frightening and some are just really inappropriate. If there are instances that you feel could put your child at risk, you need to seek professional counsel. This might be in the form of a good family/divorce attorney or a psychotherapist. It may require a consultation with The Department of Children and Families, which you can do by calling anonymously and asking to talk to a “screener.”
You will need to put your concerns in writing as part of a court document; state facts as facts and concerns as concerns. Always be completely honest about the facts or concerns. Try to determine what you are going to request of the court to be entered into an order and be as clear as possible so the court knows just what you are asking for. Seek professional support if you aren’t sure if your concerns are valid or you aren’t sure what to do.
It is a parent’s job to protect their child. If you have concerns, you follow up. There are so many things a divorcing parent has to give up. Hopes, dreams, partnership, money, maybe ideals about how your child will be raised when they are not with you, even giving up your child for brief periods of time (when they are visiting the other parent. Let your child’s safety be something that you will do all that you can to not give up.
Please consider getting support if you are going through a major separation, married or not married, especially if you have children. Family and friends can be very helpful, but even just a few sessions with a specialist can make a big difference.
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Please see www.tracylamperti.com for more information about marriage and divorce.
Please join us in welcoming New Cape Cod Mom Advisor: Melinda Lancaster! We look forward to her blogs and her expertise! Comment below on topics you would like to see her discuss in the future! Welcome Melinda-great to have you!
By: Melinda Lancaster
Good day all! My name is Melinda Lancaster and I’m new to the Cape Cod Mommies blog, so let me introduce myself. I am a US Navy veteran, a member of the Cape Cod Children’s Writers Group, published author of “Tyler and the Spider” and “Grandma, Tell Me If You Can,” and a poet, with a piece of poetry hanging in the Hyannis JFK Museum. But mostly, I’m a mom to three amazing children (my daughter, Katelin has Rett Syndrome), two step children, and a grandma of four.
Reading and writing has always been a passion, even more so since I became an author. The wonder of the written word can never be overestimated, it teaches, encourages you to dare, explore, dream and opens up new worlds, connecting the reader to ideas, cultures, and amazing, wonderful places. But, I have learned that beyond that, or rather the crux of it all, is communication.
As a parent of a special needs child, I have been given a challenge-how to help my child, who cannot speak, communicate. So as I venture into this world of blogging, I hope that I can give other moms of special needs
children, or children just beginning to read, some tips they may find helpful on the amazing journey of learning to read, as well as review apps that I have found helpful (or not), the difficulties and successes of Katelin’s progress and some fun ways for hands on learning and some of Katelin’s favorite books.
I am available for readings of my book, “Tyler and the Spider”, which was inspired by my daughter as a way to address differences in general, for classrooms and daycares- it comes with a fun craft, easily adapted to any child.
I am looking forward to this new adventure!
Melinda Lancaster is a children's author and a poet. Her books ("Tyler and the Spider" and "Grandma, Tell me If You Can) are published through Wiggles Press and her poem "Echoes" hangs in the Hyannis JFK Museum. After studying
Mamas, I think I have made a terrible mistake. Do you remember when I lost my mind and succumbed to peer pressure and actually signed up for a race? And not just any race, but a 5K with obstacles thrown in, you know just for fun. The Diva Dash is describe as “A 5k course dotted with fun obstacles sure to challenge your agility, balance, strength and speed. Add in copious amounts of tutus, boas and bling, plus enthusiastic camaraderie, and you’ve got the SHAPE Diva Dash.” Monkey bars, people, monkey bars,
When I signed up, I had great intentions; I would train, be in the best shape of my life, and totally rock this race. For a few months I did really well. Have you found the Couch to 5K app yet? Changed my life! It made
the transition from walking to running so much smoother than if I just got off the couch and tried running by myself. Well, at least it did for a little while. Then while my family was going through The Great Move of 2013, exercise fell by the wayside. I have not run in 6 weeks and am now terrified. Why?! Because the Diva Dash is THIS WEEKEND!!!! As in Saturday. Oh dear God, what have I gotten myself into?!
Well, in shape or not, I’m doing the race. Will I be utterly humiliated? Probably. But I’m counting on my friends (those exercise pushers that made me sign up for this race in the first place) to push my butt over those walls, pull me over the tires, and hold my hand as we cross the finish line. And to be honest, I hope this is the first of our many racing adventures together, because I do love these ladies. Also, when I was running regularly I felt so good, about my body and my health.
So wish me luck mamas, I will post all the victorious and possibly humiliating pictures afterward! If you feel like joining me on this adventure there are still some spots available and I have a discount code: BLOG to help reduce the registration fee. Sign up here! Let me know if you’ll be racing! Also, PLEASE, give me any tips you might have for getting through this race, or at least the monkey bars!
by: Linda Bartosik
Today is the first day of school and it is no ordinary day, no matter how many times we encounter it. I have a very special video to share with you in honor of this day. Every mom everywhere should experience this video the first week of school. This first month of school is very hectic and emotionally charged no matter how old your children are. It moves fast. We shopped and prepared and now we meet buses, make food, drive, worry, drive some more, rework schedules, and drive some more. As we do these daily tasks, not only this week, but throughout the school year, the minutes tick by. While getting your three year old out of the car seat in the driving rain to pick up your five year old at school, you don't stop and contemplate those minutes. You just do it and all you're thinking of is how you can't wait to get everyone home, warm and dry.
These are our ordinary minutes of our ordinary days with our kids.
But...they are not so ordinary after all. These minutes of these days contain gifts. Gifts we are not aware of while unbuckling that car seat and balancing an umbrella and said three year old on one arm, while closing the car door. And so, as a new school year begins, I give all you moms out there The Gift Of An Ordinary Day, by Katrina Kenison. Enjoy - with tissues - and I wish you and your children the best school year ever!
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By: Amy E
Sponsored Post: Author received complimentary samples as part of a promotion with Naturally Savvy (Check them out) in exchange for an honest review of product. All thoughts and opinions are the author's own.
I was super excited recently to be able to sample Surf Sweets. Surf Sweets are an organic and natural candy company. They are made in an allergen free facility (free of 10 common allergens) without corn syrup using organic fruit juice and sweeteners. This means that the fruit juice and sweeteners have not been exposed to chemical pesticides and fertilizers like many other candies that contain conventional fruit juice.
When you have a child who has allergies it is amazing and refreshing to find a treat that they can enjoy like their friends! Surf Sweets are made and packaged in a facility free of the 10 most common food allergens, including dairy/casein, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, wheat, soy, fish, shellfish, sesame and sulfites. This was a HUGE plus because my Tiny One is allergic to peanuts. I have become much more paranoid lately regarding food allergies after the recent news story involving a young girl dying from her peanut allergy. The product she ate did not contain peanuts but contained other ingredients which had a peanut base. She had eaten the product before and never had a reaction, unfortunately this time there was a FATAL reaction. A FATAL reaction can happen at anytime! Even if the person has ingested the product before safely, they can still react. As you can imagine this means that a lot of foods especially candy and cookies are now taboo in our household. Surf Sweets however is made in a facility that involves no chance of peanut contamination as well as others! So before we even sampled the candy, they had already got some major bonus points!
By the way they are also dye free, dairy free, casein free, wheat free, GMO free.... some of their products are even vegetarian and vegan free! And da da dun.... there is 100% Vitamin C per serving! I know it keeps getting better and better and I haven't even told you what I think about the candy yet!
So we were able to sample 4 different bags of candy. The Tiny One was beyond excited for this experience. We samples the Gummy Bears, Gummy Worms, Jelly Beans, and the Sour Berry Bears. I found the texture of the candy, especially the worms and bears to be quite smooth, different form the gel type texture in regular gummies. I was pleasantly surprised to find them also easy to chew. I feel like regular store ones are usually are too gelatinous, but these were smooth and busting full of flavor! I was excited to try the Sour Berry Bears, which were actually pretty good, however just a tad to much extra sugar for me personally. The Jelly Beans also packed a punch. My favorites were definitely the Gummy Bears and Worms.
Since they are so satisfying and totally curb your sugar craving without all the unwanted extras, we may have found our new favorite candy! And just in time for Halloween! They also make great rewards for potty training, a job well done, or just a treat for yourself and your mini army!
The Surf Sweets website makes it easy to find their products and where they are carried. You can purchase Surf Sweets online or from a variety of grocery stores Whole Foods. Stop & Shop & Shaw's as well as several other chains were also listed as carrying the product, however I could not confirm they are carried locally. The closest place I could confirm them carrying these in store was Whole Foods in Weymouth. You can also find them on Amazon at $20 for 24 packs! That's less than a dollar a bag!
Surf Sweets is also a proud member of 1% for the Planet. As a member, they donate a minimum of 1% of the sales from their products to a number of organizations that support environmental causes, including Climate Cycle, Healthy Child Healthy World and EcoMom Alliance.
I would definitely recommend this product and we will be purchasing more. I would avoid storing it any place that could get warm as they could meld together. If you decide to purchase some of these I would definitely recommend you hide a few in a secret area for yourself-even parents need a special treat!
Do you have a favorite candy or treat that has extra perks like this? If so share with us! We would love to check them out!
Photo courtesy of the Wall Street Journal
I found this refreshing and amazing recipe in the July 12, 2013 issue of the Wall Street Journal from Chef Stephanie Izard. Izard is the owner of Girl & the Goat and Little Goat Bread all in Chicago.
While the recipe looked super tasty, we decided to substitute in and out a few things as we didn't have everything we needed. The result was still a super fantastic and refreshing salad that complements any dinner! So get the rest of your tomatoes, mozzarella and drag out summer just a little bit longer!
We all deserve a treat now that season is over!
1 cup almonds (org recipe has pistachios)
Juice of 2 lemons
2 tablespoons honey
5 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
2¼ cups roughly torn bread
1¼ pounds heirloom tomatoes, cut into wedges
1 ripe nectarine, cut into wedges
(org recipe has additionally 2 ripe plums wedged)
10 ounces fresh mozzarella, sliced into ¼-inch rounds
8 basil leaves, roughly chopped
Our attempt © Mommies LLC
1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Make vinaigrette: In a
medium bowl, whisk together almonds, lemon juice, honey and 4 tablespoons oil until well combined. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Set aside.
2. Make croutons or as my son likes to call it: "crunchy bread". Toss bread with remaining oil and season with salt. Spread croutons in a single layer on a baking tray and bake until golden, 12-15 minutes.
3. In a bowl, toss tomatoes with fruit and season with salt. Divide mozzarella slices among plates and season with salt and pepper. Top with fruit mixture, drizzle with vinaigrette and garnish with basil and croutons. Serve immediately.
Breaking the News Navigating Separation and Divorce in the Best Interest of the Child
by Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
***This is part of the Navigating Separation and Divorce in the Best Interest of the Child Series
“Understand that the child now has a weight on their shoulders that wasn’t there before.”
When there has been a lot of conflict, fighting or obvious tension, it can sometimes feel easier to tell children. It is as if there is a “good reason” for separating (because of the fighting).
But it wouldn’t be fair to say that there is ever an easier scenario for divorce, for parents or children. When marital troubles have been concealed well by the adults, this presents a whole different scenario, one of shock and a kind of surreal feeling.
Either way, it is very hard.
It is best for both parents to be present when telling the child. Agree on what you are going to say, who is going to be the spokesperson and what is going to be said ahead of time.
Speak to the child with their developmental level in mind, but no matter what stage, be sure to convey that divorce is completely the adults’ responsibility. It is not the child’s fault. Reassure the child that you both love them very much and nothing can change that. A child can never do anything that would cause parents to break up.
Give children enough information so that they won’t be saying to themself, “I don’t get it. What are they saying?” But also know that the child may not take in some of the details of what you are telling them and you may have to say things again. It is even good to say, “This is hard for us to tell you. It is a lot for all of us. You might not hear everything all at once and that is ok. We want you to ask us if you have questions.”
If there are things that you cannot answer, explain that you will tell them just as soon as you can. Some details you just might not know. Some details are not appropriate at their developmental level.
Who will I live with?
Where will I go to school?
Will I move?
Where will each parent live?
WAIT! When is this going to happen????
What about Christmas morning?
What about the winter ski trip we take every year?
Will I still get to see my friends?
Will I have to go to a different school?
Do Grandma and Grandpa know?
Is this a secret??
Can I still do my favorite activities?
Understand that the child now has a weight on their shoulders that wasn’t there before. Even if there was a lot of conflict or tension from silent fighting, the child’s story had just started a new chapter. Consider whether it is appropriate to share the information with the childcare provider or teacher.
Adults should be open to suggesting other adults to the child who know about the separation and are available to listen if they want to talk. Tell the child, “Auntie Sarah and Uncle John know that mommy and daddy are going to live apart and if you want to talk about it with them, they will listen.” Make sure this person is a good listener and not one to interject a lot of commentary or negativity.
I often encounter cases where there is conflict about the logistics; visitation, where the child will primarily live, etc. If you are unable to resolve these differences on your own, a mediator may become involved or the matter will end up in court. If the child becomes aware of these conflicts, it is ok to tell the child that mommy and daddy are having a lot of trouble agreeing on some things, so a Judge, kind of like a referee or umpire will hear both of our sides and make a decision for us.
Please consider getting support if you are going through a major separation, married or not married, especially if you have children. Family and friends can be very helpful, but even just a few sessions with a specialist can make a big difference.
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Please see www.tracylamperti.com for more information about marriage and divorce.
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