Did you ever just know that your child was special, or maybe just a little different? If your answer is yes, or maybe then this group is the group for you. I started a Facebook support group a few weeks back after my daughters diagnosis. Let me back track a bit.
Our daughter was born a month or so early, and from the moment she was born we knew something was special about her. We went home in a timely manner even though she came home with jaundice and a heart murmur everything seemed okay. Then she started having a hard time breastfeeding, and keeping the milk down. Which meant she wasn't gaining weight. For the first month she barely gained anything, her jaundice took sometime to go away, and we were told that if she didn't start gaining weight, and the jaundice didn't start to go away she would have to be admitted back to the hospital. One of the saddest moments for me as a knew mom, I felt as though I had failed. We switched to formula, and no matter which one we tried she just couldn't keep it all down. We even tried putting rice in her bottle but that didn't help. However she was finally gaining weight and he jaundice was going away, so we didn't have to go back to the hospital. Eventually my daughter was diagnosed with acid reflux and a lactose sensitivity. She had tried so many different formulas, and by the time we got to milk even the lactose free milk didn't help stop the reflux. That was the beginning of our journey which has just begun. Our daughter has recently been diagnosed with SPD ( sensory processing disorder) hypersensitivity, along with speech delay and behavioral issues. This doesn't mean my daughter is mean or doesn't know how to behave.
I started this group to help find support here on the Cape as well as across the country. My main focus is here on our tiny island. I found it difficult going to play groups with other kids when my daughter has trouble understanding personal space. Now some will say no 2.5 year old knows what personal space is, and I would agree. With my daughter it is a little bit more complicated than that. With this new group I want to be able to bring parents and children with special needs together, talk and gain new prospective from other parents. I don't want to have to explain why my daughter is touching you even though she has been asked many times to please stop.
With this group I hope to accomplish this, to make friends who understand, and for my daughter to be able to make friends without fear of judgement. I know there are other moms, dad, grandparents, aunts, and uncles out there searching for a group like the one I've started. Like me they don't know where to look. I went searching for one the day we came home with her diagnosis, and was unable to locate one on the Cape or surrounding areas. I want to encourage others to come check out our group, share your stories, vent if you need to. This group is a no judgement group. Not all kids are easy and not all kids are the same, and in our group we understand this. The group is called "Special needs speaks" it is a closed group so you will have to ask to join. However keeping it closed means keeping everyone's vents and issues privately within the group. You are not alone in this, there are others who are going through similar issues with their kiddos. We want to be here for you if and when you need us.
Check out below for the ways to get in touch with me and join our group!
Email - SamanthaSturtevant38@gmail.com
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Samantha.Sturtevant6
I am owner and blogger for Hungry hungry mommys
Facbook for HHM - https://www.facebook.com/hungryhungrymommy/
Facebook for Special needs speaks - https://www.facebook.com/groups/specialneedsspeaks/
By: Liz Libby, CLC, CCCE, HBCE
The whole “it takes a village” saying is a nice idea. I thought I knew what it meant…… until I had premature twins and a partner that worked all the time. And then I realized that I wasn’t going to survive this parenting gig without some backup from other exhausted moms. I literally went to a different moms’ group every weekday when my guys were babies, and that was my lifeline. Eight years later, I’m still friends with some of the ladies I met in those groups. If you haven’t yet found yourself a moms’ group, here are some reasons you need to:
Outer Cape Moms’ Group
Thursdays from 10am to noon
220 Samoset Rd in Eastham, right next to where they are building the new library
BirthingYearCapeCod@gmail.com or 774-207-7124 for more info
Or visit our Facebook Page!
Liz is a Certified Lactation Consultant, a CAPPA certified childbirth educator, and a HypnoBirthing childbirth educator at The Birthing Year. In between running after her three wild and crazy children, she is currently preparing to sit for the IBLCE exam in October of 2016 to become an IBCLC and offers a variety of prenatal classes, birth preparation and support, and postpartum and lactation support. She facilitates the Outer Cape Moms’ Group, which meets weekly and offers evidence-based breastfeeding information as well as support and solidarity for all moms.
By: Meghan Kemp
Ten years ago, I moved to this little spit of land sticking out into the ocean. I fell in love with a Cape Codderand this became my home. The one problem – I had no friends! This can be an isolating place to live and I was certainly missing the comfort and support friendships can bring. I didn’t realize quite how hard it would be to make friends here! It’s a lot like dating, except you’re trying to pick up friends instead of a hot date.
I’d meet someone at work or elsewhere and try to build up a rapport. Nervously I would think, should I give her my number? Is that too forward? Am I moving too fast? I made a few friends this way, but I was still looking for those core, bosom friends (you Anne of Green Gables fans know what I’m talking about).
A few years went by and I had my first baby. And mamas, I have to tell you this, one of my first thoughts after finding out I was pregnant was that I was totally going to use that baby to gain entrée to new friendships
among Cape Cod mommies.
So I pop out this adorable baby and am ready to start making friends, but first I needed to get over my fear of leaving my house in the height of winter with a new baby. Dude, I was completely freaked out. Would I put her in the car seat right, would I slide off the road, what if a snowflake touched her precious baby skin?! Looking back it’s clear that there were some post-partum depression issues going on here, but I didn’t have any mama friends yet who would say gently but firmly, “Lady, you’ve got the crazies, time to deal with that.” When Fiona was four months old, all three of us came down with a horrible, disgusting stomach bug. I really needed a mama friend to help, even just to bring us some ginger ale. I felt very, very alone. And also very vomit-y.
At this point I decided come hell or high-water, I was going to make friends. I needed a support system and if it wasn’t going to magically show up on my doorstep, I was going to create it. I started attending every playgroup on the lower-Cape and through one of these I met my first bosom friends. And here’s the awesome part, they are the gift that keeps on giving. They have connected me to more friends, and they have connected me to even more. I love these ladies and together we comfort and support one another as we navigate parenting, jobs, relationships, and living on this crazy, awesome peninsula.
When I had my second child, one of these mamas said “Lady, you’ve got the crazies, time to deal with that.” And she and my other mamas helped me deal with post-partum depression, get the care I needed, and supported me as I got better and better (and sometimes worse).
Sometimes, as mamas, we are tired. We have given of ourselves all day to so many others. Sometimes it is hard to find a little additional energy to put towards building and maintaining a friendship. But please, do it. Do it for yourself, because you deserve a friend. You deserve someone that will bring you ginger ale when everyone is puking in your house. Who will take the kids for a few hours so you can go have your pap smear in peace. And return the favor, because it feels good to help out these ladies that you love. And you know what, I feel like the luckiest lady in the world to have these smart, wonderful, challenging, brave mamas supporting me, pushing me, and loving me.
Do you have a mama support group? Tell me how you’ve met your best mama friends! Do you need help connecting with other mamas? Let me know and I’ll point you in the right direction. I can be a mama friend match-maker, woohoo!
Cape Cod Moms