Mamas, let me just tell you, you are doing a great job. You are loving your family, taking care of them, taking care of yourselves, and doing everything else that needs to get done. You should be proud of yourselves.
Seriously, just take a minute and feel good. Think only of the good things you are doing and have done. Remember those moments and put them in a treasure box in your mind and draw on them when you need strength, patience, and most of all, a reminder that YOU are a GOOD mom
There are days when this is so easy to forget. When I feel like I am failing. When the negative feedback
that is so freely passed along from strangers, friends, and family members can get overwhelming. Most of this advice is offered from a place of love, but it’s so easy to accept it as a point of failure. It also seems to come much more easily than words of praise and encouragement. And I also accept the criticisms much more easily than I do the commendations.
(first beach day of 2013 and a day where I felt like I was parenting right!)
So this is my mission for the month of April. I am going to spread some positivity among the mamas (and the papas). I am going to see the good and show it to the parents for them to see. We all need reminding that we are doing a good job.
You know what else I’m going to do, I’m going to give myself a break. This parenting thing is a long, long, long journey and if I’m feeling exhausted from the feedback I’m getting on my parenting of little kids, imagine
how I’ll feel by the time they’re teenagers?!
So, take this post as a compliment – you are awesome. Great job! Keep up the good work! Also, you look really good today!
And when I need a break and a good laugh, these are some of the other mamas I turn to lift my spirits and make me smile. Check them out when you need a time out:
Parenting: Illustrated With Crappy Pictures – Amber Dusick does just what she says, illustrates hilarious parenting moments with crappy pictures. I can’t even read these at work because I do that weird suppressing laugh out loud thing that sounds like a snort and cough and then everyone looks at me funny.
Brittany, Herself – Brittany Gibbons is a mom of 3 and a seriously funny, brave, and smart lady. She is super honest and has given one of the greatest TED talks, I’ve ever seen. She also makes me do the weird work laugh thing, apparently that’s the bar I set for picking my favorite blogs.
Scary Mommy – Jill Smokler is a mom of three and is hysterical and honest and makes me reframe my crazy days into funny memories. There are other great contributors and a fun, sarcastic community there as well.
So, mamas, tell me, how do you remind yourself that you are a good parent on those days when you are feeling low?
Cape Cod Moms