Take the Pressure Off Your Summer
It seems like just yesterday we were wearing heavy coats and hats. Now we’re enjoying warmer temperatures and the anticipation of fun days to come!
Summertime, for many of us, is a nice change of pace. But it can also bring with it a large number of expectations. We think that summer has to be the high point of the year. We believe that it has to be filled with fun, fun, and more fun. We hope that it measures up to all that we hope and desire it to be.
I’m here to encourage you to take some of the pressure off your summer. Yes, summer is a special time, but it doesn’t and shouldn’t be a creator of more stress.
Here are a few points to remember as you consider the summer ahead:
Some of the most special moments are often the ordinary, unplanned ones.
These are the moments you won’t necessarily find on Instagram. These are the moments that happen so unexpectedly that they sneak up on you and before you know it you’re smiling big and feeling so very thankful. Sometimes we spend so much time trying to concoct special, memorable moments that we find ourselves disappointed and weary. Your kids aren’t looking for spectacular. Cuddles on the couch, conversations in the car, and evening walks are extraordinarily ordinary ways to connect with the ones you love this summer.
There will be bad days and boring days.
It’s easy to become discouraged when the day doesn’t go as planned or if you find your children uttering the dreaded phrase, “I’m bored!” over and over again. Don’t beat yourself up over these moments (or days). Not-so-great days are a part of life. If a day doesn’t go as planned, take a deep breath and prepare for a better day. If your kids say they’re bored, it’s okay. Boredom generally (and eventually) sparks creativity.
Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing.
If you spend too much time on social media, you’ll eventually begin to think you’ve got it all wrong. It will look like everyone is doing everything, and somehow you’ve failed at this fun summer thing. Remember, you do it best when you do you! Make the choices that best fit in with your family’s priorities and hopes for the summer.
In the end, your kids want you.
It’s true; they want you! Now this is not a statement that is supposed to add stress; it’s one that adds freedom. You don’t have to have 100 activities lined up, and you don’t have to spend every waking moment doting on your children. But when the activities fall through or you just feel like staying in, let go of the guilt. I promise your kids will prefer an ordinary summer with a happy mom more than an adventurous summer with a grumpy one. Squeeze your children and just enjoy being together. Your kids are so very happy just to have you!
If your kids are going to camp this summer, great!
If your kids are spending slow, unscheduled days at home, great!
If you are spending a lot of time vacationing, fun!
If your days look a lot like the rest of the year, good!
If your summer looks like a combination of all of the above, terrific!
Take a deep breath, and take that pressure off your summer!
Enjoy your summer however it takes shape!
Charissa was born and raised on Cape Cod. After 9 years away from the Cape, she and her husband returned home to start their family. A former 5th grade teacher, Charissa has spent the last 12 years at home with her 3 children while working various part-time jobs. Just about a year and a half ago she decided to pursue something she had been thinking about for many years; she started a blog! She loves sharing her passion for living a full life without all the busy over at http://www.thenotsobusymom.com/. You can follow her on Facebook and Instagram (@thenotsobusymom) to learn more.
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