By: Amy E
How many of you parents out there are single parents? Today my post is dedicated to all you single moms and dads. I am somewhat new to this arena and still early on in this rollercoaster of a journey. It is definitely not the smoothest journey at this point, but I’ve been told there are points where it smooth’s out. One of my recent experiences was to meet the new “friend”.
I was the one to bring up meeting his new “friend” who he moved in with, because obviously if our child was going to be spending time with her at her house then I was going to have to meet her. As some of you know, meeting the new “friend” can be awkward or stressful. We both sized the other up and the meeting went as well as could be expected. There were a few very awkward moments, like when my son’s father decided to feed his new “friend” food directly into her mouth in front of me. That was a bit uncomfortable but I sense it was probably only on my end. Another rough moment was later when I was home with the Tiny One and he kept on going on and on about his Daddy and his new “friend”. Hearing about those adventures and my son talk so much about the “friend” was a little rough.
I ended up having snow globe moment when you feel as if you are viewing the life of your child but without you in it or not the way you had pictured it in your head. I guess the lesson for me here is that I used to have a fantasy of what a family should look like or be and in my situation it is not what I fantasized. I have to let go of that dream and mourn the loss of it so that a new one can take shape. It will take some time I’m sure, but I’ll get there. I also know in the long run, it is better for me to always be positive and respectful
when dealing with my child's father and his "friend" (current and potential future ones) as it will set the tone for how the Tiny One behaves and treats others, including his future spouse, etc.
So here's to all you single Moms & Dads out there, the road is certainly rough going, but kudos to those of you who bear the burden and do so with a smile on your face knowing that we are rewarded with our
child's love and knowing the end result will be better if we are the ones to approach these situations with positivity and respect.
Have you ever met your ex’s new “friend”? How did it go?
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