The Fine Art of Etiquette
“Contrary to what many people think, intelligence is a poor predictor of personal, academic and professional success. Emotional IQ is where it’s at!”
The Fine Art of Etiquette
By Tracy Lamperti,
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
Photography by Kelly Cronin Photography, at Chatham Bars Inn,
June 7th, 2014
The benefits of teaching young people manners and etiquette are seen at home, in the community and in the classroom. There is such enormous pressure, pretty much from when the child is in the womb, to begin stimulating their brain. It is all well intended. We want our children to be smart and successful. I’m sure “smart” and “successful” are equated with happiness. From headphones channeling classical music through the belly, to Little Einstein videos for our pre-talkers, to interactive electronic games with bells and whistles for our toddlers, to ipads for all ages, we are trying to pave the way for our children to a successful future.
I’m not criticizing or saying these things are bad or even unnecessary. Look at me here. I’m barely out of my first trimester and I’m infusing my little one with Mozart!
But more and more, our children are entering preschool lacking the skills of “please and thank you.” We, as a culture have normalized this by saying that this milestone comes later, AFTER they have experienced the social world of preschool. Somehow they move on to kindergarten with much of their alphabet under their belt, but still no “P’s and T’s” without being prompted.
Aside from the fact that it is just refreshing to be with a happy, polite child (even if they don’t know the whole alphabet or how to count to 100), there are good reasons to undertake a diligent effort to teach our children these skills of social grace, equal to, or greater than the efforts that are going into academic knowledge.
· Proper behavior, manners and knowing how to present oneself are the backbone for confidence, self-respect and respect for others.
· Contrary to what many people think, intelligence is a poor predictor of personal, academic and professional success. Emotional IQ is where it’s at!
· Harvard University Stanford Research Institute, and Carnegie Foundation found that 85% of our career success depends on social skills.
· 43% of teachers in public schools spend more time dealing with behavioral issues than they do teaching. (April 2003, Public Agenda)
· In an ABC News Poll in 1999, 85% of respondents felt that the world would be a better place if we just said “please” and “thank you” more often.
· Someday, everyone is going to be at a school dance, banquet, dinner, church service like a wedding or a funeral, on a date, invited to the girl/boyfriend’s parent’s house for dinner. In my experience, people are often reluctant to go to special events, or suffer unnecessary levels of anxiety because of not being sure about how to act or what to do.
Studies also show that children are more receptive to instruction and direction on issues of manners and etiquette from non-family members in a learning setting.
It was such a wonderful experience teaching this group of nine girls and enjoying our last meeting at Chatham Bars Inn. To see these young ladies practicing their newly learned skills in such a beautiful environment was an experience for all of us!
I have heard the request for a boy’s class and there is one in the works. I look forward to teaching many more young people these valuable skills that they will carry with them wherever they go.
Check in on next week’s blog post for a link to new classes, beginning in September!
Put manners together with confidence and our young people are going to be winners and leaders!
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
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Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines Unveils New Speed Slides And Many More New Attractions Entering 7th Season. Located in Candia, N.H.Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines is New Hampshire's Home Town Water Park perfect for young families.
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Advertised as 'gravity defying and only for the brave and fearless at heart, The Shooting Stars, two 40 foot vertical dropping speed slides will be celebrated and officially open following the cutting of a ribbon on Saturday, June 21st. It's been a long time in the creating, but on opening day for Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines in Candia, N.H. customers will be told to 'cross their arms, make a wish' and shoot the 40 foot vertical drop along 131 linear feet and fall into a smooth landing of cool water.
The 'Shooting Stars' were slated to open last season, but a southern hurricane damaged the manufacturing facility and to the disappointment of Liquid Planet and their customers the slides sat mostly erect, but not usable. "The delay makes the opening of the slides that much more exciting and we are thrilled to kick off our seventh season with a ribbon cutting celebration to officially open them." Said Kevin Dumont, President of Liquid Planet Water Park L.L.C. "The Shooting Stars are the real deal when it comes to thrilling water park attractions. They are steep, fast and a real adrenalin rush." Dumont said.
The Shooting Stars certainly look official. They are decorated with racing stripes and checkered flags line the slide course. "These new slides will allow our guests to have a lot of fun racing against each other and we hope to incorporate races and competitions." Said Kelly Dumont, General Manager of Liquid Planet Water Park L.L.C. "They also bring the element for older kids to get more from the park experience." She said.
Entering its seventh season, Liquid Planet Water Park And Zip Lines will introduce several new features and attractions to the park including a new dock and slide set up and expanded beach at 'Crater Lake,' 'Fantasy Falls,' a cascading waterfall down the granite cliff, a newly built 'Cosmic Camp,' summer camp, expanded concrete areas, roofed shade areas, a remodeled zip line gear up station, a revamped miniature golf course and many aesthetic touches ranging from landscaping to paint.
"We have brought new features and attractions every year since we opened in June of 2008." Says Kevin Dumont. "We listen closely to all of the feedback from our guests and work hard to incorporate the changes and improvements noted as creating a better park experience." He said. "The opening of The Shooting Stars and multiple other items we are introducing this season are the goals we set to be in place for our guests this year. We are thrilled and excited to open." "It is our ambition to be New Hampshire's hometown water park and we're on our way." He said.
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7/12/2014 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM A Day in the Park for Chloe
Armstrong Kelley Park, Osterville, MA
Join the Ewing family as they host their 5th annual A Day in the Park for Chloe in memory of their precious daughter who was born still at 35 weeks.
The day will feature food, games, raffles and lots of fun! Festivities begin at 11 am. For more information or to register please email Sabrina Ewing: firstname.lastname@example.org
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Proceeds from this event will benefit The SUDC Program's advocacy efforts which includes our support of The Sudden Unexpected Death Data Enhancement and Awareness Act. The CJ Foundation for SIDS is in full support of this bill! Serving as the most influential piece of SIDS/SUID/SUDC legislation to date, The Sudden Unexpected Death Data Enhancement and Awareness Act (S 314/HR 669) promises to promote unprecedented, positive change by improving death-scene data collection methods, establishing nationwide awareness and education plans, and expanding support services for families in need.
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With Summer here on Cape Cod it is important to practice #WaterSafety and be able to recognize the signs of Secondary Drowning! As parents, we never want to see anything happen to our wonderful children but with water sometimes we have limited control. We have covered some important topics before regarding Water Safety but it is important to focus on Secondary Drowning as this can occur anywhere from 1-24 hours after having being exposed, which means it can really sneak up on you if you do not know what to look for.
"Secondary Drowning (and near-drowning) is one of the post-immersion respiratory syndromes. It is defined as deterioration of pulmonary function that follows deficient gas exchange due to loss or inactivation of surfactant."
This basically means a person (children or an adult) inhales even a small gush of water (bath, pool, lake or ocean) it can irritate the lungs and cause swelling. Usually very little water is present in the lungs when secondary drowning occurs, but the small amount of liquid is enough to hinder the lungs ability to provide oxygen to the bloodstream.
The definition of secondary drowning is a matter of controversy and the term is probably inappropriate. Secondary drowning is a misnomer because victims who develop acute respiratory distress syndrome after drowning have not had a second submersion episode.
According to the WHO, "Drowning is the process of experiencing respiratory impairment from submersion/immersion in liquid." This definition does not imply fatality, or even the necessity for medical treatment after removal of the cause, nor that any fluid necessarily enters the lungs." The WHO recommends though that this term not be used as really what is occurring is drowning, the term secondary can be misleading. But for lack of a better way to help people understand "Secondary Drowning" is the term used by the general public.
Secondary Drowning can happen after being at the beach, pond, pool or even the bathtub so it is important to familiarize yourself with the signs and symptoms as it just might help you save a life later!
The Pool Safely campaign and USA Swimming released statistics in June 2014 on drowning deaths in spas and pools in the U.S. According to their data there have already been 95 drowning deaths through May 31 in children under 14. Seventy-four of these deaths involved children under five. They do not track how many of these deaths were from secondary drowning.
"Dr. Paul Pepe, of the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, said although this is an uncommon scenario it does happen. He said three or four hours later children who fall into a pool can develop pulmonary edema even if rushed to the emergency room immediately. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) does not differentiate between drowning and secondary drowning, so statistics on how often the situation occurs are hard to find, although WebMD says it is probably on 1-2 percent of all drownings. However, according to Pepe, drowning is the number one cause of deaths among children under the age of five. He says it takes only “the blink of an eye” for a child to get water in their lungs that can cause drowning. He said that in secondary drowning, pool water can damage the lining of the lungs, essentially causing lung failure hours after the child is out of the pool." (Source)
See this recent news story for one mom who remembered the signs after seeing it on the news and then acted immediately to save her child's life!
By Tracy Martin-Turgeon
When the warm weather starts to roll in to summer, chances are you will go swimming at the beach, a community center or a backyard pool. Basic safety tips are essential to ensure safe swimming. Some tips to help make your summer enjoyable.
Making swimming and water play a priority.
Stay safe in your back yard in swimming pools.
· Teach your children basic swimming tips in your pool.
· Making children aware of pool drains, pipes, ladders that may cause them to become stuck or pulled under water.
· Always have a portable phone close by incase you need to call 911.
· If a child is missing, check the pool first.
· Make sure your pool has a lock and gate when not in use.
· Install pool alarms this could possible save a life.
· Maintain your pool so it is operating properly.
· If possible, enroll your child/children in swimming classes.
Enjoy your summer, use safety tips and caution at all times. Drowning statistics have grown over the years. Make this your top priority as a parent to ensure your child is safe at all times near water. Make sure you have a first aid kit handy, a pair of scissors to cut hair or clothing if they get stuck or entrapped, a portable phone, and a flotation device and you will be on your way to an enjoyable summer.
Tracy Martin-Turgeon has been in the field of early childhood education for 22 years. She started with The Children's Workshop in September 1999 as an assistant director and she is currently Vice President of Operations, overseeing seven facilities throughout Rhode Island and Massachusetts including Bourne and South Dennis. The Children’s Workshop provides quality child care and early education for Infants, Toddlers, PreSchool, PreK, Before & After School and Summer Camp. For more information visit http://www.childrensworkshop.com/
Recently a friend of mine told me about a great new company in Newton, MA called Crudité Creations, owned by Lauren Brooks, who cares about community and children's health! We were offered a chance to try out one of their tasty creations which was delivered by David promptly on Father's Day morning! I was thrilled to meet him and told him how great of an idea I thought this was! Plus the fact they will deliver to Cape Cod makes this particular mom an even bigger fan!
The Tiny One and I were excited to try our very own Vegetable Bouquet! As soon as I unwrapped everything I was astounded at the attention to detail and creativity that had gone into creating such a beautiful arrangement. Crudite Creations are vegetables arranged in an artful way and they are perfect for events and celebrations. BUT they are also a fun way to get kids and picky eaters to eat more healthy veggies especially since they are cut and arranged in such a visually appealing manner.
The Tiny One and I went right to work on the olives, radishes, zucchini and squash, dipping them into an extremely delectable white bean dip. We sampled a little bit of everything and the Tiny One was very excited by the "itty bitty baby corns". We shared with family and friends and enjoyed them for snacks, lunch and even cooked up a bunch of them to enjoy with our dinner one night!
With the Tiny One now in preschool, I loved having some of the leftover squash and zucchini pieces to share in his lunch or even for our picnic dinners. Apparently cutting them into shapes makes eating veggies more fun to kids, which means I am going to need a veggie cutting class with Lauren Brooks stat!
The company also sources all their ingredients from local suppliers and when available local farm stands!
The Tiny One and I were so pleased with our arrangement from Crudité Creations that he gave it the Tiny Thumbs Up! I urge you to give this brand new company a chance and try ordering one of your own for your self or for a friend or your next event! Try it out ASAP and save 15%!
Reasons Crudité Creations is AWESOME!
Crudité Creations is offering a special 15% off their vegetable bouquets to the Cape Cod area community for this week only. Orders need to be placed by Friday 6/27 at 1pm and delivery will take place on Saturday 6/28.
Crudité Creations (www.cruditecreations.com) was recently featured on WCVB’s Chronicle show as part of their “what’s new” segment, and is receiving widespread acclaim for their beautiful and healthy vegetable bouquets. The arrangements and their selection of gourmet dips are a perfect addition to any summer event or celebration.
To take advantage of this offer please log on to the Crudité Creations web store and use the “capecod” discount code.
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Disclaimer: Although I received an arrangement for free to sample and review for this blog, I was not paid for my review and all opinions are my own.
Financial Friday ~ How can I increase the amount of financial aid my child is entitled to?
By: Gary M. DellaPosta, CPA
Here are some strategies that may increase the amount of aid for which your family is eligible:
Try to avoid putting assets in your child's name. As a general rule, education funds should be kept in the parents' names, since investments in a child's name can impact negatively on aid eligibility. For example, the rules for determining financial aid decrease the amount of aid for which a child is eligible by 35 percent of assets the child owns and by 50 percent of the child's income.
Example: If your child owns $1,000 worth of stock, the amount of aid for which he or she is eligible for is reduced by $350. On the other hand, the amount of aid is reduced by (effectively) only 5.6 percent of your assets and from 22 to 47 percent of your income.
Reduce your income. Income for financial aid purposes is generally determined based upon your previous year's income tax situation. Therefore, in the years immediately prior to and during college, try to reduce your taxable income. Some ways to do this include:
Have your child become independent. In this case, your income is not considered in determining how much aid your child will be eligible for. Students are considered independent if they:
Gary DellaPosta is a CPA and founder of the firm: Gary M DellaPosta, CPA's & Business Advisors. A graduate of Bryant
We really love the Kids Academy app! It is the perfect learning app for my preschooler! He and I loved the graphics and bright colors. The games which focus on letters, number sense, tracing, puzzles, reading and so much more are age appropriate and fun according to my 4 year old. There is frequent positive reinforcement and encouragement for the kids as they do the activities. I was most excited to try the reading readiness activities and was impressed at how quickly my son caught on and began zipping through the activity! He also really loved the number tracing activity and throwing them in the bucket! He likes throwing things in buckets in real life too! We think this is a perfect app to get darted with to get your preschooler ready for kindergarten as well as for reviewing and reinforcing basic foundation skills that they will use for the rest of their lives!
Download the app for free here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/preschool-kids-games-kid-puzzles/id543851593?mt=8
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