By: Ryan Beck
I wrote this poem a few months after I had my second son. I think it resonates with me still today. As women we put so much pressure on ourselves to return to our previous physical within an unrealistic timeframe. For me it helped me realize that it is a process. It is a season. I hope this helps new moms.
I am a healing body.
It is my round hips that shake and groove to the music with my children.
My plentiful breasts that have nourished two preemies and kept them healthy.
My strong arms that lift, carry, swing and rock my boys.
My thick thighs that bounce my babes all while I watch their faces stretch with a smile.
The pinches of skin they grasp with their little fingers, the indentations my supple body produces when pressed by their strengthening legs, the smile that these little moments produce, and the giggles that result are the things that make me a happy mama.
I have a man who loves me. His gentle caresses translate between the two of us. He understands the journey.
I am a healing body.
My strong legs that can run for miles will return. My plentiful breasts will shrink. It will be only moments until my firm thighs, stomach, arms, and cesarean scar will only whisper the memory of these early times with my little ones. My body will return. I have to remember.
But right now, I am a healing body.
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By: Attorney Jeni Landers, Esquire
Although I do help clients during some very happy moments in their lives such as purchasing a home or starting a new business, much of my work is of course helping people get through very difficult times such as divorce, injury, and deaths of family members. Sometimes just having information and getting a sense of where they stand can help people feel stronger and certainly more prepared to take the next steps.
Disclaimer: This post is meant to give you some general information about the divorce process in Massachusetts. It is NOT all inclusive and is NOT meant to be a step-by-step guide for a DIY divorce. The laws on divorce, custody, alimony, and property division are complex and you should retain counsel if possible. By providing you this information I am not in any way undertaking representation of you, creating an attorney-client relationship with you, providing you with specific advice on your situation, or guaranteeing you any particular result in a divorce action. You may not rely on nor cite this blog post in any action for divorce.
Divorce actions come in all shapes and sizes and the first thing to remember is that there’s no “winning” in a divorce. Divorces are handled in the Probate and Family Court here in Massachusetts and generally you would file for divorce in the county in which you live. A divorce action is meant to resolve all the issues between the parties including but not limited to child custody (legal and physical) and support, parenting time (aka visitation), alimony, asset and debt division, health insurance, life insurance, and taxes. When making decisions that affect children, the court using the “best interest of the child” standard which is extremely fact specific and may create what appears to be opposite results sometimes; each case is different. The standard for property division is “equitable distribution.” Remember, equitable doesn’t mean EQUAL. The distribution is fact specific and based on multiple factors to be discussed another day.
There are basically two ways to get divorced in Massachusetts. The first is referred to as a 1A (Mass General Laws c. 208, § 1 A) or “uncontested” divorce. In an uncontested divorce the parties file a joint petition for divorce and a “Separation Agreement” that they have negotiated and drafted either themselves or with help from an attorney or mediator. If there are minor children involved, each party must also attend a parenting class and present the certificate of completion to the court. The court will also require additional documents including but not limited to a financial statement completed by each party (under oath), a certified copy of the marriage certificate, and affidavits from both parties that the marriage is “irretrievably broken” and cannot be fixed.
The Separation Agreement should resolve all issues between the parties including custody, support, property division, etc. Once the Court has all the required documents, a hearing will be scheduled. Both parties must appear (with or without counsel) unless a party files an affidavit in lieu of appearance. At that hearing the parties are sworn in, the Judge asks each party questions about the Separation Agreement and the financial statements, and if there are no outstanding issues or problems with the Agreement, the Judge orders the divorce. Although this is meant to be a “final” outcome, decisions relating to children (and possibly other issues depending on how the agreement is drafted) are modifiable by the court upon the filing of a Complaint for Modification by either party in the future.
The other type of divorce is a 1B or “contested” divorce. This type of divorce action resembles traditional litigation. One party files a petition for divorce which can be based on a variety of grounds, including the very general “irretrievable breakdown.” That party then becomes the Plaintiff and serves a summons and copy of the petition (or “Complaint”) on the other party. The second party becomes known as the Defendant and must file an “Answer” to that Complaint. Unless one or both parties file motions for temporary orders (such as asking for a certain custody arrangement pending the trial), the first time the parties go to court is the Pretrial Conference. Prior to that conference, the parties must, among other things, exchange certain financial documentation, complete their financial statements, meet (with or without counsel) to try to resolve the issues, and draft Pretrial Memorandum to be submitted to the court. At the Pretrial Conference the Judge will listen to the parties (or their attorneys) and usually then schedule the trial. Sometimes the case will need another Pretrial Conference. And occasionally the Judge hears enough (in cases with limited issues) to decide the issues and order the divorce that day.
A divorce trial is like any other trial and involves substantial preparation, the calling of witnesses to testify, the submission of exhibits and other evidence to the court, and opening and closing statements. Some people represent themselves, but it can be very difficult to do so since “pro se” (self-representing) parties are still expected to follow the rules of evidence and procedure. After the trial the Judge will issue a decision on all of the issues including custody, support, property division, etc. As with a 1A divorce, decisions made by the Judge that affect children are later modifiable based on a change in circumstance.
To further confuse matters, sometimes you start working on a separation agreement with the hopes of filing a 1A/uncontested divorce, but negotiations break down and you end up heading to a trial. On the other hand, sometimes one party files a 1B/contested divorce and it looks like you’re headed for a trial, but you’re able to negotiate an agreement on your own or through your attorneys and you can present that agreement to the court and avoid a trial.
What I’ve just described are typical scenarios, but cases often take different and more complicated directions based on the issues. Most days in Barnstable Probate Court there is a “Lawyer of the Day” who can provide you with free, limited advice. If neither party has an attorney, the Judge will most likely send the parties to speak with someone in Family Services/Probation to see if an agreement can be reached on all or some of the issues. There is also a law library in Barnstable District Court and the librarians can direct you to useful information on divorce.
Jeni A. Landers, Esquire
Wynn & Wynn, P.C.
300 Barnstable Rd.
Hyannis, MA 02601
***Blogger was given complimentary admission in order to facilitate an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are the blogger's own.
Madame Tussaud's wax museum in New York was an adventurous experience for the whole family. Upon entering, the staff were funny and joked with the kids. We were impressed with hos friendly and helpful everyone was. All of the wax figures were amazingly life-like and we really enjoyed taking pictures with them. We saw all our favorites from Marilyn Monroe to President Obama and the First Lady. The kids (and clearly the moms) really enjoyed posing in the Oval Office. But every single wax figure was amazing and looked just like the people they were meant to portray.
The 4D Superhero Movie was also incredible. It was like we were really there. We will definitely visit again soon as this was the perfect zip trip and activity to do with the kids while getting away from Cape Cod for just a day.
Hey Cape Cod Moms! Only 23 days until #FreeFunFridays! This summer they're partnering with 67 different cultural institutions to offer free admission on Fridays, so you and your family can enjoy some of the best attractions in Massachusetts at no cost! It’s #FREE for everyone so share the good news with your friends. Read more about this Summer's offerings: http://bit.ly/HSF-FFF.
Blog post originally published on June 3, 2014 but we have republished and are keeping fresh updates!
Since last year's Cape Cod Fireworks post was so POPULAR and we have gotten so many emails from families wanting to know when the 2014 list would be out we have decided to take on the task again.
Below we have compiled a listing of all the fireworks, parades and other celebrations taking place across Cape Cod & the Islands. If you know of a local event on Cape Cod, the Islands or any of the surrounding areas, that we have forgotten to include, then please use our form at the bottom of this post and we are happy to add it!
4th of July Parades
FYI: PLEASE NOTE THAT SOME EVENTS HAVE BEEN RESCHEDULED OR CANCELLED DUE TO WEATHER!
West Barnstable - The parade will start at 9 a.m. from the County Complex on Railroad Avenue, proceed down Main Street, turn left onto Mill Way and end at the Village Hollow. we believe this MIGHT be CANCELLED
Bourne - Beginning at 10 a.m., along Main Street in Buzzards Bay
Brewster -Fourth of July Fine Art and Craft Show, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Friday, Drummer Boy Park, Main Street, Brewster. A broad collection of art including hand made goods.
Cotuit -Decorating 9:30-10:30am and then at 11am the parade will start from the Post Office and proceed down School Street and up Main Street to the Waldorf School. Come celebrate Cotuit's 375 Anniversary and walk or ride with us. Bike and wagon decorating from 9:30am - 10:30am at the Waldorf School of Cape Cod at 140 Old Oyster Rd, Cotuit MA.
Centerville - The village of Centerville's parade begins at 10 a.m. with a route that goes from the Centerville Elementary School, up Bay Lane, then right onto Bumps River Road, left onto Park Avenue, right onto Main Street, and continuing to the Centerville Recreation Building where it ends. CANCELLED
Chatham - 9:30 a.m. Friday, Main Street; proceeds down Main Street from corner of Shore Road to Veterans Field. Strawberry shortcake festival, after parade, First United Methodist Church, 16 Cross St. 508-945-5199. Fourth of July Parade refreshment stand, 8 a.m. Friday, Main Street, Chatham. Coffee, donuts and cold drinks.
Edgartown - Celebrate the Fourth of July with Edgartown’s traditional 4th of July parade & fireworks. Enjoy the traditional late afternoon parade then claim your seat on Memorial Wharf or any of the other harborfront locations for a resplendent display over the water. Display begins as darkness falls. Free and all are welcome. Edgartown has moved to July 5.
Falmouth - 10 a.m. Beginning at the Village Green, down Main Street to Peg Noonan Park CANCELLED no reschedule.
Falmouth - Fourth of July Pancake Breakfast & Games, 7 a.m. Friday, UUFF Meetinghouse, 840 Sandwich Road, East Falmouth. Visit from Uncle Sam and pancake games for children at 11 a.m. $7, $3 children 12 and under. 508-487-0449.
Hyannis - Boat Parade in Hyannis harbor beginning at 1:15 p.m., then Main Street is the place to be at 4 p.m. for the Hyannis 4th of July street parade we believe this was CANCELLED
Hyannisport - The village of Hyannisport holds their parade at 11 a.m., after the road race (road race begins at 9 a.m.)
Nantucket - Nantucket Fourth of July town events, rescheduled to 9:45 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, Main Street; including community sing-along, pie-eating contest and water fight between firefighters. www.nantucket-ma.gov/visitor.
Orleans - Begins at 10 a.m. on Eldredge Park Way, goes along Rt. 6A, Main Street, Rt. 28 and back to Eldredge Park
Plymouth - Theme for July 4 2014 Star Spangled Plymouth! July 4, 2014 – 9:30 am RESCHEDULED JULY 12
Begins at Mayflower Business Park 428-430 Court Street after Road Race. Road Race Info: 7:30am road race preceding parade sign up and race info at www.wickedawesomeproductions.com or www.southshoreracemgmt.com
Provincetown - Starting at 11 a.m. at the Cape Inn, proceeding along Commercial Street CANCELLED
Sandwich - At 10 a.m. the parade begins at the Wing School on Water Street, to Old Main Street, right on Beale Avenue, left on Morse Road, and finishing at the fields behind the Wing School. staging at Henry T. Wing School, 33 Water St.; proceeds down Water Street to Old Main Street, right on Beale Avenue, left on Morse Road, concluding at fields behind school.
Also in Sandwich: Boat Parade-at Shawme Pond at 9pm. The Sandwich Boat Parade has been around since the late 1800's! The Boat Parade is comprised of small boats and canoes decorated in creative ways using paper lanterns illuminated by candles. The boats parade by the bandstand for all to see, and for the Recreation Department and Recreation Committee to select the evening's winners. Want to take part in the parade? Contact the Sandwich Recreation Department
Wellfleet - 9am Parade of antique cars at Mayo Beach at 9:00 a.m., parade of floats begins at 10 a.m. from the Town Pier to the center of town and back.
Woods Hole MLB Club Woods Hole Fourth of July Parade, noon Sunday, begins on School Street, proceeds down Water Street, over drawbridge, concluding at Waterfront Park.
Cape Cod Independence Day Fireworks
July 4th Week
FYI: PLEASE NOTE THAT SOME EVENTS HAVE BEEN RESCHEDULED OR CANCELED DUE TO WEATHER!
Date: July 1, 2014
Place: Mashpee High School
The festivities begin at 5 p.m. with a whole evening of food, rides, games, music, and lots more.
Date: July 1, 2014 (Rain date July 2) rescheduled for July 6, 2014
Place: Rock Harbor
You can also see the Rock Harbor fireworks display from Cape Cod Bay beaches in Brewster and Eastham. They'll be off at a distance, but still fun to see.
Date: July 4th, 2014 rescheduled for July 5, 2014
Celebrate the Fourth of July with Edgartown’s traditional 4th of July parade & fireworks. Enjoy the traditional late afternoon parade then claim your seat on Memorial Wharf or any of the other harborfront locations for a resplendent display over the water. Display begins as darkness falls. Free and all are welcome.
Falmouth, MA rescheduled for July 6, 2014
Date: July 4, 2014
Place: Falmouth Heights Beach
Do you have a portable radio? Be sure to bring it with you, and tune to 92.7 FM to hear the music that accompanies the fireworks.
Date: July 4, 2014 canceled. Rescheduled for August 30th!
Place: Lewis Bay
The best viewing spots are the beaches around Hyannis Harbor. Pack a picnic basket for dinner and stake out your spot in late afternoon. Or have a bite to eat at a restaurant on Main Street or by the Harbor, then walk to the beach for the fireworks. (Don't forget your cover-up clothes. It gets chilly on the beach after sunset, even in July.)
Date: July 4, 2014 rescheduled for July 5, 2014
Place: Jetties Beach
Fireworks are shot from a barge off of Jetties Beach. Public transportation to Jetties Beach leaves from outside the Whaling Museum on Broad Street for a minimal fee. Bring a blanket to sit on, the sand can be cool.
Date: July 4, 2014 RAINDDATE JULY 12
Place: Plymouth Waterfront
Fireworks will begin @ 9:00-9:15PM depending on night sky on the Plymouth Waterfront!
Date: July 4, 2014 rescheduled for July 5, 2014
Place: Provincetown Harbor
For a very special experience - watch the fireworks from onboard a ship in the Harbor. On July 4th, Dolphin Fleet offers whale watch plus fireworks cruises at 5 p.m., 5:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., as well as a fireworks-only cruise at 8 p.m. These cruises are very popular, so reserve your spot early. (Dolphin Fleet: 1-800-826-9300)
Date: July 5, 2014 rescheduled for July 5, 2014
Place: Onset Beach & Bay
The town of Onset is on the "mainland" side of the Cape Cod Canal, just over the bridge. It's an absolutely gorgeous little town, and well worth a visit!
Other Cape Cod Fireworks Displays
Yarmouth Summer Celebration
Date: June 27, 2014
Time: 3pm until Dusk
Place: Dennis-Yarmouth High School
Insider's Tip: This year's Yarmouth Summer Celebration runs from June 21st through June 28th. Other events during the Celebration include sand sculpting contests, a kids' fishing derby, the Cape Cod Ice Cream Chill Off, "Kite Fun" at the beach, a youth sailing regatta, and a big beach barbecue. Grand finale to Yarmouth's week long event "Summer Celebration Kick-Off"! This fantastic fireworks show will be set to a musical score and even includes cartoons on the "big screen" at the D-Y Field prior to the start of the show. Cartoons start at 8:30, fireworks start at 9:15. Full schedule of events for Summer Celebration Kick-Off can be found here: http://yarmouthsummercelebration.com/events/
Buzzards Bay (Bourne), MA
Cape Cod Canal Centennial Celebration
Date: July 29, 2014
Place: Over the Cape Cod Canal by the Railroad Bridge
This year marks the 100th anniversary of the Cape Cod Canal. This fireworks display is one of many celebratory events scheduled for the week of July 26 to August 3, 2014.
Oak Bluffs, MA
Date: Aug 22, 2014
Dennis Summerfest Celebration
Date: 2014 date and details TBA
Place: West Dennis Beach
Yarmouth Seaside Festival
Date: October 12, 2014
Place: Seagull Beach, South Yarmouth
The Seaside Festival is the "last hurrah" of the season in the town of Yarmouth. This popular annual Columbus Day weekend event features all sorts of activities including a road race, a huge crafts fair, canoe and kayak races, beach activities, a bonfire, a parade ... and the big fireworks display over Seagull Beach.
Ring in 2015 with the first big Cape Cod fireworks display of the New Year at Chatham's First Night celebration!
Date: December 31, 2014
Place: Oyster Pond
As a special treat for the young 'uns (and any of us who can't manage to stay awake until midnight ;-) there's an early "low level" fireworks show at 6:30 p.m. Watch the early-evening display from the parking lots and fields at the Chatham Community Center.
We compile this list from a variety of sources including Cape Cod Times, multiple Chambers of Commerces and other local Cape Cod and surrounding area websites in order to bring you a complete listing.
By: Brittany D
***Blogger was given complimentary admission in order to facilitate an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are the blogger's own.
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