Have you heard of "The Wishing Tree"? Maybe you know it by the other names people call it: "The Conch Tree" or "The Prayer Tree"? It is a tree, long past the peak of it's life located out on a little spit at the tip of Long Beach in Barnstable. Apparently several years ago, shells started to adorn the branches of this tree. The shells are not your traditional Caribbean conch shells, these are the New England Conch aka Whelks.
It is located in Barnstable near Craigville Beach. You have 2 options. You can park at Craigville Beach (45-1 hour walk with children) or you can try to park in the smaller lots for Long Beach (30-45 min walk with children). Both lots are resident only lots so plan your adventure accordingly.
We decided to venture out late one afternoon to find the elusive sanctuary. We were able to park down near Long Beach which was a huge plus. We armed ourselves with water, snacks and sunblock as the Tiny One took off in search of the magical wishing tree.
The walk took us about 45 minutes and we stopped a few times to explore. Along the way we found interesting shells, some fantastic skipping stones, and friendly birds. Once the tree appeared in sight, we all took off running to see who could get there first. The tree did not disappoint. It is covered in a couple hundred shells of varying sizes. Some have been stuck directly on the branches, while others have been tied to beach grass and hung delicately. We spent a lot of time enjoying the peacefulness this hidden gem offers. We made our wishes and enjoyed the experience of exploring a new spot for the very first time together.
Just past the Wishing Tree is a sand bar area where people have arranged stones to form names, designs or words of inspiration. Interestingly, when we got home I looked at the area on Google Earth and I was able to see many of the designs, specifically the spiral we had come across earlier in the day.
We really enjoyed getting some family exercise while finding a new spot that even these locals did not know existed. It is always fun to explore where you live and be surprised.
Cape Cod is so unique! There are many things to do here that are free and fun. Afternoons like this make us appreciate what we have!
We highly recommend taking a trek out to The Wishing Tree with your family. The walk might sound long, but the reward is well worth it! There's nothing better than a family spending time together!
I can remember as a little girl going out to dinner with my grandfather at Friendly's in Falmouth. It was always such a treat. Back then they had an additional sherbet cooler on their menu which has been sadly absent for over a decade. That delicious, refreshing cooler was the: Lime Sherbet Cooler! This was by far, hands down, the best sherbet cooler ever created! This week we decided to recreate the past for the Tiny One and boy did he love it! We highly suggest this refreshing summer treat!
How to Make the Lime Sherbet Cooler Recipe
In a Ninja or Blender, combine a few scoops of lime sherbet and your choice of liquid. Traditionally you are supposed to use sprite, but you can use flavored carbonated water or even unflavored! Pour into a glass and enjoy!
What was your favorite refreshing treat as a kid? Do you have a favorite summer time treat now?
Part 2 of 4
Signs of Success in Young Children
By Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Lamperti Counseling & Consultation
The first post in this series focused on catering to the every need of our infant and baby. A respected professor of mine in undergrad school once said, “Psychotherapy is ‘genuine need gratification.’” ~ Cesareo Pelaez Pelaez was mentored by Abraham Maslow in his psychology studies after coming to America by way of fleeing Fidel Castro’s regime in Cuba. Maslow, of course, is known by anyone who has taken a basic psychology course, as the father of humanistic psychology and his hierarchy of needs.
Very basically, the idea is that one must meet each basic need in order to work to fullful the next need. Infants and babies need their most basic needs met in their first year to have a solid foundation. As children grow, they of course still need the basic needs met but can begin to move into the more advanced needs, such as to build relationships, gain confidence and make achievements. As you see, in this theory, things like achievements are needs. However, they are needs that one must meet on their own, or they are really not met at all.
In this second post in the Success Series, we see how important it is for parents to shift from meeting ALL of the needs of their little one to begin to set the stage for their little one to begin to meet their own needs, and realize achievements that they themselves can attain.
The Two Wheeler
A good example is learning to ride a two wheeler. There is a small but profound gap between a parent balancing the bike for the child to stay upright and the point where the child is peddling on their own strength and balance. At one moment the child is completely dependent on the parent and at the next moment the child is completely dependent on their own self. There is really no bridge, but a leap must be taken. Any of us who have accomplished this feat know that feeling of being completely full of esteem after a period of being completely dependent.
Ideas for the Parental Shift
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Lamperti Counseling & Consultation
By: Gary M. DellaPosta, CPA
Got kids? They may have an impact on your tax situation. Here are eight tax credits and deductions that can help lower your tax burden.
Gary DellaPosta is a CPA and founder of the firm: Gary M DellaPosta, CPA's & Business Advisors. A graduate of Bryant University, he is a member of the American Institute of CPA's as well as the Massachusetts Society of CPA's. In addition to providing accounting, tax and advisory services to individuals and businesses, he also provides litigation support to attorneys and has been recognized as an expert in numerous Massachusetts' courts. Mr. DellaPosta serves on the Board of the Barnstable County Mutual Insurance Co., where he serves on the audit, investment and employee benefit committees. He is a Director at The Cooperative Bank of Cape Cod, where he serves on audit, governance, and personnel committees, and is a former director of Eastern Bank and Plymouth Savings Bank. He also serves as the Treasurer of the Community Health Center of Cape Cod and is a trustee of Heritage Museum & Gardens.
Exciting news! Steve Songs is returning this year to the Cape Playhouse for another musically rocking good time! You may remember last time Steve came to the Cape 2 years ago and his shows were a hit! This year he was gracious enough to let us interview him as well as give away 2 pairs of tickets to his 11:30am show! Read more below on how to enter!
PBS Kids co-host & renowned children's musician SteveSongs will bring his signature brand of seriously good (and seriously fun) music to the Cape Cod Center for the Arts: Theater for Children at the Cape Playhouse in Dennis for 2 shows on Thursday Aug. 13 at 9:30a and 11:30a.
SteveSongs will debut his latest song, "Taking Care of My Body" about eating right, taking care of your body and reading.
SteveSongs blends smart lyrics, catchy melodies & thoughtful messages into fun participatory songs that kids & adults love. Anyone who’s attended a SteveSongs concert appreciates and raves Steve’s ability to connect with his audience – from the exuberant children flocking towards the stage, to the moms bouncing babies with the beat, to the parents and grandparents singing and grooving along.
WHAT: SteveSongs Concert @ the Cape Cod Center for the Arts:
Theater for Children at the Cape Playhouse
WHERE: 820 Rt 6A, Dennis Village, MA
WHEN: Thursday August 13 at 9:30a and 11:30a
ADMISSION: Tickets are $12
9:30a show: https://web.ovationtix.com/trs/pe.c/10004350/
11:30a show: https://web.ovationtix.com/trs/pe.c/10004351
For more information about SteveSongs or to request a review copy of Orangutan Van, please contact Michele Fox at 781.248.9455 or firstname.lastname@example.org
Check out Steve’s website at www.stevesongs.com
Cape Cod Moms Interview Steve from Steve Songs!
What do you do for fun when you aren't traveling around singing songs
Spending time with my family. Other hobbies: I love playing sports, and helping my kids with their hobbies.
What has been your favorite song you have written?
I can’t have a favorite song – otherwise all of my other songs would get jealous and it wouldn’t be good for their self confidence. I do get excited about playing some new songs. We have a new song called “Taking Care of My Body” that we’ll be singing at Cape Cod Playhouse and I really enjoy singing that one.
What inspires you?
I loved Schoolhouse Rock” songs when I was a kid. And I really enjoyed watching a band called The Monkeys on TV. When I got a little older, James Taylor became my favorite.
When did you start singing? Did you take musical instrument classes when you were a kid?
When I was in 3rd grade I started singing in a school chorus, (though I have some tape recordings of my mother and I singing nursery rhymes together when I was 2) but when I was in 7th grade I got my first solo. I was so nervous that I almost threw up, but as uncomfortable as that was, something about the experience of singing a song by myself for people who wanted to listen was exciting enough to keep me doing it.
I wish I had taken musical instrument classes when I was a kid. When I was in 5th grade I had to choose between learning to play saxophone or playing travel soccer and I chose soccer. I still hope to one day take saxophone lessons. Maybe when our kids go to college :) My son started taking drum lessons this year at the age of 6 and he really likes it and has great rhythm. I go into some of his classes and play around on the drums too.
How do you incorporate music into your own family life?/What do your kids think of their father?
For our most recent album, both my son (who was 4) and my daughter (who was 2) have cameo appearances. Joshua raps on the song “Flat Stanley” and Nadia says "Bubbles" At the end of the bubbles song. One time when my son was 4, we were playing checkers and he started to sing one of my songs that I didn’t think he had ever heard before. I said “where did you hear that?” He answered, “you sang it on tv this morning.” That was funny.
If you could change one thing in today's education system, what would it be and why?
I believe it is important to use music in the classroom. It is fun --not just for the kids but for the teachers as well – it is unique way to gather the energy and enthusiasm of a group of children and focus it toward a common purpose with endless possibilities for interaction, learning, movement, expression and laughter. Personally, I think sharing and teaching concepts through music is one of the most effective ways to engage, connect and help kids learn and remember. There is a wealth of beautiful, funny, imaginative songs with myriad topics to easily accompany any curriculum. Some are hundreds of years old and some were just written yesterday.
Music helps kids learn. We humans have a very interesting connection with music; rhythm and melody. Different individuals have different musical tastes and sensibilities, but music in general invites us in and opens up our minds to new patterns, new ways of looking at things. Some songs have an almost magical ability to change or enhance the way we are feeling – happy, excited, etc. Beyond that, there is something about combining words with melody that is a pleasing thing to our ears. And in my experience greatly helps kids and adults remember what they have heard.
Since you have now toured on Cape Cod more than once, what has been your experience? Any places you really liked?
I love coming to Cape Cod. These Cape shows are among my favorite of the year and I love the Cape Playhouse - its a great venue. For me, the best part is seeing friends old and new. We’re so fortunate that there are families who have been at our shows year after year. Some families tell me that our show is a tradition they look forward to - which is so flattering.
Cape Cod Moms & SteveSongs are giving away two pairs of tickets for the 11:30a show. We will select 2 winners! All you have to do to enter is comment on this blog post with the name of your favorite Steve Song!
As a bonus, ShopLocal members who enter this giveaway will earn an extra entry giving you double the chance to win!!
RULES: Giveaway terms and conditions:
This giveaway is sponsored by SteveSongs and hosted by Mommies LLC. This giveaway is open to residents of the US who are of legal age at time of entry. This giveaway is accepting entries 8/6/15 through 8/9/15 at 11:59pm EST. ALL entries will be verified. Entrants will be disqualified if an entry is found to be invalid. If one of your entries are invalidated then all will be invalidated. If you claim an entry you MUST complete it or ALL entries will be removed. Winner will be chosen via Random.org. Winner will have 24 hours to respond or prize will be forfeited to the next winner. A maximum of 3 alternate winners will be selected. SteveSongs is responsible for delivery of prize tickets to winners.
Robert Osol, Esq
Consider this scenario:
John and Mary are a married couple with two young children, and they are deeply in debt. John was the breadwinner in the family. He had a good paying job until the company downsized and then he was without a job for eight months. John and Mary have a house that they bought in in 2006. It is now worth less than what they paid for it. They owe more on the first mortgage than what the house is worth. They also have a second mortgage on the house. John and Mary are behind 6 months on both mortgages and they owe a decent amount of credit card debt. The credit card companies have increased their interest rate to 29.9% because of the defaults and one of the companies is threatening to sue them. They have a car with a car loan on it. They owe more on the car than what it is worth. John recently got a new job, however, he is making less than he was at his old job. The mortgage companies are sending John and Mary letters and calling them and telling them that they have to bring the mortgages current immediately or they will foreclose. They won’t take partial payments; they want all of what they are owed. John has some money in a 401(k) from his prior job. He is contemplating liquidating the 401(k) to bring the mortgages current. He knows, though, that he will have a tax consequence for taking the money early. He will have to pay taxes on the money at the end of the year and a 10% penalty.
What should John and Mary do? Should they take the money from the 401(k) now to bring the mortgages current and worry about the taxes later? What about the credit cards? They don’t have enough money in the 401(k) to pay them off and they can’t afford to pay the monthly payments and the two mortgages because of John’s cut in pay. What about the car? They are paying a car loan for a car that is worth only about half of what they owe.
John and Mary aren’t sure what to do, so they decided to come to me for a FREE bankruptcy consultation.
John and Mary are surprised to learn that if they file a Chapter 13 bankruptcy they will get a much better result AND they will get to keep their retirement money for exactly that-retirement. If they file a Chapter 13 bankruptcy they can;
· Immediately stop all collection activity from all creditors.
· Spread the first mortgage arrears out over a period of time anywhere between three and five years.
· “Strip” the second mortgage. This means that the lien will be removed from the property and the creditor will be treated the same as all other unsecured creditors.
· Pay unsecured creditors as little as 0%.
· Refinance the car so that they are only paying the lender what the car is worth and the remaining balance owed will be treated the same as all other unsecured creditors.
John and Mary understand that it will take three to five years to complete their Bankruptcy “Plan” and that they will have a bankruptcy on their credit. They believe, though, that they will still come out ahead because they will be “cleaned up” once the bankruptcy is complete. They will be current on the first mortgage and they will no longer have a second mortgage or any unsecured debt. Also, once they finish their Plan they will be able to get a new car loan right away if they need to and a few years after that they will be able to refinance the mortgage if they want to. After they weighed the pros and cons, they determined that they will be back on track faster by filing a bankruptcy rather than taking their 401(k) money, paying taxes on the money, struggling to pay back their debt, and then trying to rebuild their credit.
Robert Osol, Esq
536 Main Street
Falmouth, MA 02540
Attorney Osol is a partner at Melia & Osol. He practices law focusing on creditor law, commercial claims, bankruptcy, real estate law, small business law and estates.
The Falmouth Police Dept. is hosting National Night Out (nationwide community crime watch event) on August 4, 2015 between the hours of 6pm-8pm at Falmouth Police Headquarters. All of Falmouth’s Crime Watch groups as well as the general citizenry are welcome to attend. Among other things, the event will include tours of the police station, activities for children including face painting, and a “Dunk-a-Cop” dunk tank. Also, there will be a K-9 demonstration and displays of equipment. There will be representatives from the Barnstable County Sheriff’s Dept, Falmouth Fire Dept., Falmouth Marine & Environmental Services, Falmouth Prevention Partnership, and the Falmouth Senior Center. Furthermore, there will be free food, refreshments, and ice cream served for those in attendance.
Successful Children Series
Part 1 of 4
Conception - One Year
By Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Lamperti Counseling & Consultation
Since this is the first post in the series, I will start where it all begins;
Not every child is going to be SELF-DRIVEN to success and there is nothing wrong with that…..Successful children have two identifiable qualities; 1. they don’t see the ceiling of their success but instead think they can accomplish anything, and 2. they have a healthy understanding of boundaries, not because they really understand the importance of boundaries or even see how they are being set, but because they have been taught by example that this way or that way is safe, is expected and will help them go confidently into the next phase.
Infants thrive on love. Babies and toddlers thrive on love AND limits. For success after the infant stage, we need an abundance of both!
Finally, if you as a mom feel like you are in need of more successful experiences, reach out!
The more successful you feel, the better you will be able to think outside of the box and to crush perceived barriers for yourself and for your child.
Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Lamperti Counseling & Consultation
Cape Cod Moms