By: Robyn Morse Langmead
As a proud mother of 2 beautiful children, Aaron, now 2 years old, and Cadence, now 4 months, I have been in my share of situations where my kids needed to eat in a very public place. My son was breastfed for 11 months until he decided to wean himself. My daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and going strong. Restaurants, airplanes, & grocery stores are just a few places they would suddenly become hysterical and want to eat either for nourishment or for comfort. I would always feed them immediately before leaving my house, in hopes that they would make it through our adventure out. Yeah right, rarely did this happen! I had some version of the "hooter hider" but my strong-willed boy would swat it away, and my daughter tends to break her latch frequently and it's pretty challenging to get her back on without being able to see what's going on underneath the cover. I used to be sooo uncomfortable even nursing in public, or at least I thought it was me feeling uncomfortable until I really thought about it and realized that I have no problem bringing my baby to breast in any situation; however, I was always worried about making others uncomfortable. Even relatives visiting at my house have said things like "do you want us to step out of the room?" or "feel free to go in the other room if you need to." It's always hard to tell if they were saying that for my benefit or their own. All I know is that breastfeeding can feel very isolating when you think others are judging you for doing it. I've nursed in bathrooms, cars, behind a tree in a park, at unused booths at restaurants, in a friend’s bedroom at a summer party, and the list could go on. I've seen so many videos and internet links discussing women and how breastfeeding is accepted in public as long as the mother has a cover.
Well, the covers don't work for me and they don't work for a lot of moms. Because we keep covering up, society isn't exposed to a mother nursing her child which makes it feel "weird" or "wrong" to many people when they see breastfeeding in public. That's where this post is coming from. Now that I've made this realization, I've decided to put myself out there. My loving and supportive husband took this picture of me the other day giving my daughter a morning feeding. I want as many people as possible to see it and I hope I may inspire some other moms to share a picture of them too. Let's give society many opportunities to see this beautiful and natural act taking place so that when they see it in person, it becomes completely "normal" and common. The benefits of breastfeeding for both mother and child are ridiculously amazing! It's so sad to think that some moms choose to stop nursing or never start because of a lack of acceptance by the public. My hope is for all to see it and for it to be a step in the right direction of acceptance by all. I'd love for other moms to do the same if you feel the way I do.
Below, some other Cape Cod Moms have decided to join Robyn and share their breastfeeding pictures in the hopes that other moms will join us in our campaign to
Cape Cod Moms