Join us for a very special Valentine event on February 7th, 2015! Why Etiquette? 16 Reasons
By Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS Lamperti Counseling & Consultation To explore the class offerings and the Valentine Event, please click here. 1. It’s fun! 2. When young people are taught how to navigate social situations, they feel confident. 3. When young people are taught different ways to show kindness, they feel peaceful. 4. When young people feel confident and peaceful they behave in a civilized manner. 5. The news is saturated with stories about people acting in uncivilized ways. We can change the tide with etiquette instruction. 6. With proper instruction, it will be less likely that people will decline invitations to dances, dinners, ceremonies, parties and the like because they are too anxious or uncomfortable about going. 7. When people know which glass or bread bowl is theirs, which fork to use or whether they are supposed to take their used plate back to the buffet for seconds or get a new one, they will experience less anxiety and fewer embarrassing moments. 8. The basic practice of nice posture, good eye contact and a proper handshake will leave a lasting impression to the receiver. They might not even know why they liked you best out of all of the job applicants, but they WILL like you best. 9. When children are taught to present themselves well as a way of earning respect and this is practiced and instilled over the years, they are going to think twice as teens about becoming drug or alcohol intoxicated, because they know they will experience an inability to maintain their dignity when they are under the influence. It won't feel good or right. 10. A person who recognizes and respects proper behavior will more likely choose a boyfriend/girlfriend who emulates the same qualities. Keep this fact in mind...a person ALMOST ALWAYS chooses a partner not more than one emotional, behavioral or intellectual level above or below their own. 11. Those who are trained and taught to value excellence will strive for excellence. They are people who will want to set goal after goal and be better and better than they were the time before. 12. These young people will be a joy to have in class. 13. They are taught problem solving skills. They learn how to slow down and think a situation through AND to think on their feet. There's much less of an instinct to lash out. Kindness is emphasized in lieu of kicking and scraping through a difficult situation. 14. Kindness is emphasized in helping people recognize their own feelings when they have been left out or ignored or passed over, for example at a gathering when no one spoke to them, or the first day in a new school and the students didn't include them. In turn, they take the opportunity to recognize the left out and make others feel welcome rather than stay in their comfort zone with their own friends. 15. Learning the value of self-respect is like “drawing a line in the sand.” Such as, “This is the way one behaves socially. To behave in another way is distasteful, regardless of the circumstances.” In this instance, it doesn’t matter if someone is annoying them unintentionally or purposefully trying to start something, one maintains their composure and thinks through their options. 16. Old day etiquette held more absolutes AND our culture (and the world) was just more saturated with people who grew up learning by example or instruction and correction. There weren’t so many distractions and choices. In our day, we see that the anchors of social skills and customs have fallen by the wayside. Choices and distractions abound. Bringing back some of the anchors will make us a kinder group of people. It will help us develop closer, more meaningful relationships and be more fulfilled. a. We can send invitations by about a dozen social media sites, via our computer, smart phone, flip phone, friend of a friend and other ways I probably don’t even know about. Whereas, there were essentially TWO ways to invite a friend to your house, either in pen and paper form or person to person. b. We can mail or hand out personalized Christmas cards to our loved ones a good friends, OR we can do a mass mailing or social media tweet to every acquaintance, whether we have even met them in person or not. Bringing back some of the anchors will make us a kinder group of people. It will help us develop closer, more meaningful interactions. c. In days past, people were concerns about the needs of their neighbor and those in their community. Today, we bury our heads in our computer screens with conflict all over the world. We post our opinions about it. We judge others who don’t see it our way…these issues that are worlds away. We can even become outspoken in our own community about these far-away issues, alienating ourselves and others who we interact with every day. The Golden Rule - “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12 To explore the class offerings and the Valentine Event, please click here.
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Put manners together with confidence and our young people are going to be winners and leaders! Back by POPULAR demand, Cape Cod Mom Adviser Tracy Lamperti has posted her upcoming Etiquette Classes for September. Space is limited so call, email, whatever you need to do so you can get in to these amazing classes! For more information on her classes check out the Etiquette Series! Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS
Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant “Btw, exceedingly crunchy bacon should be picked up with fingers, even in a fancy restaurant, otherwise, cut with fork and knife.” The Fine Art of Etiquette |
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