Connecting in the Real World
Earlier in March, Cape Cod Moms held the first ever Mom Night Out. We were extremely blessed to have the opportunity to work with Alex, of Dot to Dot Art Workshop in Harwich, in order to facilitate a relaxing evening out for moms on the lower Cape. There were nine local moms in attendance for the event and we really had a great time.
Alex came up with a great spring craft to help get us in the mood for the snow-free days ahead. We created butterfly branches out of various paper and every single one was unique and beautiful just like the women in attendance.
The craft was just a bonus, because the real magic was in the moms meeting other moms. For me personally it was truly amazing to finally put names with faces and to get to know some of these beautiful women a little better.
I learned that Rachel and Amanda were huge fans of Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead, like myself! We had quite the conversation over those shows, debating who was the dreamiest man. I was able to finally meet the extremely dedicated Rita, who helps run the Lower Cape Mom event calendar and runs art workshops in the area for the local community! I also finally met Betsy, whose Wildtree newsletter I have been reading for over a year. I met Chanelle, whose husband works for the Coast Guard and I found out just how much she loves living here on the Cape. Their friend, Rachel, who attended with them was full of positive energy. You could clearly see how great a friendship she has with Chanelle and Betsy (their kids even all play together!) I had a great conversation with Alex about how she decided to leave teaching in the school system to be able to cultivate her love of art by sharing it with the community. Lauren, a fellow Upper Cape mom, made the trek to Harwich to join us for a much needed break. She even brought one of her twins with her. He was well-behaved and quite the charmer of the ladies!
The evening was a success in my book. I was so thrilled to be able to meet some other local moms and just enjoy a quiet evening out. It is really hard in this day and age to find the time to slow down and put yourself first. As women and mothers, we often are the ones who take the proverbial backseat, while we put our families, jobs and everything else before ourselves. Unfortunately, there is also the underlying competition that we often see taking place between moms, especially in the virtual world. In the day and age of constant communication and "Facebook", we often feel the subliminal prodding of guilt and competition that comes from the updates online. I know sometimes I feel guilty when I see posts about super-healthy meals, moms in super shape, activities that other parents are doing, posts from my stay-at-home mom friends or even working ones. I sometimes feel as if I can't quite measure up to this perceived ideal that society has created of the "perfect mother". But after this recent evening out, I realized that it's is all in my head, a virtual reality created by the Internet and this constant need to stay connected. When we come together in person, all those feelings of competition and guilt disappear. It was a nice reminder that we need this time every so often. We need to unplug every once in a while and actually meet up in the physical world. When we come together, we begin to realize that despite coming from all different walks of life and having different opinions on things, we are actually all pretty similar. We also realize that we're all in this parenting thing together, sharing the same parenting struggles, never to be prepared for what's next and just trying to do our best, hoping that it's good enough. It takes a village, and we all need to support one another. I, for one, am looking forward to more of these events where we can unplug and come together to share these struggles, goals, and hopes for the future.
Robin Masshole Mommy
3/22/2015 10:58:13 pm
I am not on the cape, but I am only 20 minutes from the bridge...how have I never met any of you guys before?? It sounds like an awesome night out.
Cape Cod Moms
3/22/2015 11:15:33 pm
Would love to have you join us Tuesday or at future events!!!
3/22/2015 11:57:35 pm
I love this butterfly craft! My kids would love to make these!
3/23/2015 06:07:23 am
Ok, super cute. And this sounds like a totally fun time!
3/23/2015 06:48:22 am
Beautifully said, Amy!
3/23/2015 08:09:48 am
What a great excuse to go out and mingle. So often we are too tired to go out at the end of day but like it once we get there.
3/23/2015 09:07:51 am
I live in Mass too, but am more Southeastern and coastal. Looks like you all had a great time!
3/23/2015 10:54:08 am
I love Cape Cod and this is a fab project - butterflies are gorgeous
3/23/2015 11:08:40 am
Its really nice to see mommies coming together and supporting each other. This seems like it was a great Event
3/23/2015 11:18:43 am
What a fun gathering. You all look fabulous and sound like a fun time you had.
3/23/2015 12:10:14 pm
Sounds like a wonderful time. Love the Butterfly Branch
3/23/2015 01:30:02 pm
What a fun group to be a part of. Love the butterfly craft.
3/23/2015 02:27:35 pm
It's always so fun to meet up with other women for a night out. This looks like a great meet up group.
3/23/2015 02:34:25 pm
It is so good to connect with people you have something in common with.They can really be a lot of support.
3/23/2015 02:37:39 pm
Looks like you all had a good time! And you created a very beautiful butterfly branch!
3/23/2015 02:39:49 pm
Glad to see you made some friends and got some support as well. Thanks for sharing!
3/23/2015 03:00:04 pm
Looks like this was such a fun event. I totally agree that it's so necessary for our emotional health to unplug and get together in real life. Nothing like a girls' night out!
3/23/2015 05:48:03 pm
I love your wording here, used to celebrate individuality. :) How fun of too, I would love to attend an even like this one!
3/23/2015 05:50:26 pm
Now that looks like so much fun! Great idea for a moms night out!
3/23/2015 07:33:27 pm
What a great night of fun and networking for moms. I loved the craft project. I wish I had a group like this when my kids were young.
3/23/2015 10:29:28 pm
I love those butterfly branches!
3/24/2015 03:10:32 am
I think this is a great idea. Too often we only interact with people through a screen
3/25/2015 11:11:01 am
I agree! We totally need to get off the computer and meet people in real life. It's nice to have those connections.
Raquel Von Hausen
3/31/2015 03:28:44 am
Hello Amy, We just moved few months ago to the Cape. I am a stay at home mom of a beautiful girl, her name is Emilia and she is 15 months old, Do you do activities with the kids? I do love to meet moms in the area,and love happy hours too!
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