*** This blog is part of a series. If you want to catch up, please click here.
Today is Saturday. I go to court about Riley on Monday,
July 1st. I have motioned the court for permanent guardianship. Right now Riley is taking an afternoon nap. It might be her only one for today. She has never been an expert in the napping category. While she sleeps, I can reflect on the past 8 months that she has lived with me. I don’t know what to expect on Monday. At this point the decision lies in the judges’ hands. I hope I can convince him that the best place for Riley right now is with me. She is loved to the ultimate extreme, is clothed and fed and protected. She is content and extremely happy. She has a chance to visit her other grandparents frequently and she has made “baby friends” at her daycare. She has not a thing to worry about. Maybe at some point she will be able to be reunited with her birth parents, but for now it is best that she remain with me and her Grampy.
The other day my daughter and I visited a friend in the hospital who had just had a baby. He entered the world at 8 lbs 14 oz. He was so tiny. I kept saying to Haley, “Oh my gosh, remember when Riley was this little?” I often think of the day she was born and I wonder if I had not agreed to take her when my son asked me, where would she be now? I am pretty sure she would have been removed from her parents and placed into the foster care
system. This makes me wonder about the whole “Nature vs. Nurture” theory that I learned about in school.
Riley has an amazing personality. She is full of joy and laughs almost all the time. If she is not laughing, she is making me laugh with her silliness. Not many babies wave at the American flag. Riley does! At all the flags she sees! Which convinces her daycare providers that she will certainly become the first woman president. She is a very patriotic baby! But would that particular Riley have emerged had she not lived with me? What would her world be like? Would she have met a horse? (She visits Haley’s horse quite often.)
Would she have been exposed to all the things she has seen so far in her short 9 months…the ocean, French fries, the chaos of Stop and Shop on a rainy July day?
I have asked many people this question. Most often the answer is the same….Riley has become Riley because of me and the family she has around her. I am quite humbled by this. I don’t feel as if I have done anything “special.” I did what I had to do. It was my job as a grandmother to make sure Riley has the best of
everything. That she can grow and develop and become anything she wants to become.
It takes me several days to complete each edition of my “Just Call Me Nana” blog. Since Riley is crawling and pulling herself up now, I write when I have a couple of free minutes. Today is the 4th of July. Today is a day to celebrate America’s Birthday.
For my family, it is a day to celebrate PERMANENT GUARDIANSHIP. Thank you Judge Ryley…you have made this grandmother VERY HAPPY!
Cape Cod Moms