Successful Children Series
Part 1 of 4 Conception - One Year By Tracy Lamperti, LMHC, BCETS Lamperti Counseling & Consultation Since this is the first post in the series, I will start where it all begins;
Not every child is going to be SELF-DRIVEN to success and there is nothing wrong with that…..Successful children have two identifiable qualities; 1. they don’t see the ceiling of their success but instead think they can accomplish anything, and 2. they have a healthy understanding of boundaries, not because they really understand the importance of boundaries or even see how they are being set, but because they have been taught by example that this way or that way is safe, is expected and will help them go confidently into the next phase. Infants thrive on love. Babies and toddlers thrive on love AND limits. For success after the infant stage, we need an abundance of both! Finally, if you as a mom feel like you are in need of more successful experiences, reach out!
The more successful you feel, the better you will be able to think outside of the box and to crush perceived barriers for yourself and for your child.
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robin masshole mommy
8/3/2015 11:43:34 pm
Oh, I totally think I over-praised with both of my boys LOL. It's hard not to when you're so proud, you know?
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8/4/2015 01:12:00 am
These are all insightful suggestions on how to survive these formative years. I've definitely struggled with staying consistent with Yes and No. It really does help kids learn their boundaries and that makes a huge difference.
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8/4/2015 02:21:05 am
I am one of those mom who is proud of everything her son does so I overpraise. He is an only child so I overcompensate.
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Helene Cohen Bludman
8/4/2015 02:38:56 am
I found as a young mom that consistency was the hardest thing to maintain. And I probably overdid it with the praise, too.
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8/4/2015 03:39:30 am
These are great tips. I have to admit I think my husband and I overdid it on the praising.
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8/4/2015 05:53:56 am
Keeping conflicts away from baby is so important. This was a great article!
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8/4/2015 01:38:33 pm
So many great tips for parents. Praise is one of those things that is so easy to overdue, but it is important to not have a child expect that response all the time.
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8/4/2015 02:19:56 pm
I think surrounding oneself with great support is so important. My family was so important for me, especially with my second who had colic for five months. They helped me maintain my home while I nursed almost non-stop and gave me great emotional support.
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8/4/2015 02:33:04 pm
I don't agree that you can over praise a child to age 1 as you state above, heck even to the age of 4-5 ... an infant, toddler and preschooler look for parental praise to help them build self confidence.
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8/4/2015 05:32:42 pm
So many great points here. I don't have human kids but I can see how this would be very helpful for parents.
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Krista
8/5/2015 03:38:59 am
Sometimes it is hard for me to not over-praise..but I am working on it.
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debdenny@centurytel.net
8/5/2015 06:40:32 am
Very good points. Good for everyone to know
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