by Pamela Wills, Certified Professional Coach
Pamela specializes in helping people rediscover and express their true, authentic selves with practical life strategies
(like goal-setting and time management) and creative exercises (such as mind-mapping). Her clients usually decide to work with her after leaving difficult, codependent, controlling and/or abusive relationships.
There is no time like the present, right? Time to move on. Just do it. Get going. It’s time to stop talking and start walking. Today, I’m giving myself (and you) 6 steps to help with the moving on part of life.
1) Figure out what’s weighing you down. If you’re still stuck trying to let go, something heavy must have wrapped a chain around you. What’s making you feel immobile? Why haven’t you taken action? Are you still afraid of something? What is keeping you from taking that first step forward? Figuring out what it is will make the next step easier.
2) Ask yourself if these heavy things serve you. Once you figure out what is holding you back, ask yourself whether that thing is really doing you any good. For example, if you want to quit smoking so you can run a marathon (because running a marathon is on your Bucket List) and nothing is working, ask yourself whether smoking that cigarette really helps you to reach that goal. Your answer will help you move on to the next step.
3) Decide to let those things go and focus on something else. Once you have the answer to #2, it is time to make a decision. You can do this!!! Whatever it is, just let it go! Give up that old habit that no longer serves you OR your goal. Then forget about it and focus on something else. Drink water. Take a walk. Chew gum. Take a bath. Chop wood! Whatever — the important thing is to replace the old not so good anymore thing with a new improved exciting
helpful thing. Once you cross that bridge, making the leap to #4 will seem easier.
4) Focus on new stuff. Start focusing on what you want, what’s important and what can make your life better. Want to run a marathon? Well, if you’ve passed GO on #3 and let go of the smoking habit to focus on… hmmm… maybe gum
chewing? Then you’re probably ready to start training for that marathon. Focus on training for that marathon. Put all
of your extra energy into training for that marathon.
5) Create an action plan. Remember those S.M.A.R.T. goal strategies we covered a few weeks ago? Dust those off and come up with a plan of action to achieve the best version of you. Sticking with the Bucket List marathon example,
you need a training plan. Go! Get yourself a plan, a trainer, a coach to help you become a marathon runner. Pick a date. Pick a marathon. Start today! Then move on to Step #6.
6) Live in the present, in the now. We hear this all the time, but practicing it for real takes some real focus. Don’t let those negative chatterboxes in your head (the ones like my Nellie, Liz and Sarah) derail your efforts. Whenever you
feel yourself scrambling out on a limb with an anxiety producing line of thought, clamp down on your attention and bring it back to whatever task is at hand. So what if you don’t run 26 miles the first day you train for that marathon! =) You are training for it RIGHT NOW. Working on it RIGHT NOW. Boom, end of drama. Now is the only time and place there is. Be thankful for it all.
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